LuckiLee
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"Different traumas, same problems".
You are definitely right about that!!
Let me explain...
My guy, a combat veteran is a plant manager and I also work there. We hire alot of people through a temp service. Most of them come from the inner city of Detroit. One of the men we hired was in a gang and was incarcerated for 15 years. Manslaughter. He says he's lucky he didn't get life in prison. I don't know any of the details. Anyways, him and J (my guy) became friends. He's a good guy. Changed his life completely. Raising his two younger kids by himself. His oldest daughter just graduated college. J and him had a conversation once about their similarities. And J said we both had to hurt people we didn't want to. And we both live with it every day. Different traumas, same problems!
I have a girlfriend from work, also from Detroit. Her hubby is/was (not sure about that) a gang member. She was telling me about his behavior. Anger. Hypervigalant. Sleep disorders. Trust issues. Etc... I told he it sounds like PTSD. He should see a doctor.
Again, different traumas, same problems.
This is why we're all here. To figure out this bi*ch called PTSD.
As for you not being sure if you love your kids?? You fought for visitation. That speaks volumes to me. Lots of dead beat dads out there!! Your feelings and emotions will come back. Give it some time. All those things you missed out on as a child. Go do those things with them. Ride bikes. Picnics. Sing and dance. Sports. Coloring....:)
It won't be easy. But one thing we know is you're tough and determined.
XO
You are definitely right about that!!
Let me explain...
My guy, a combat veteran is a plant manager and I also work there. We hire alot of people through a temp service. Most of them come from the inner city of Detroit. One of the men we hired was in a gang and was incarcerated for 15 years. Manslaughter. He says he's lucky he didn't get life in prison. I don't know any of the details. Anyways, him and J (my guy) became friends. He's a good guy. Changed his life completely. Raising his two younger kids by himself. His oldest daughter just graduated college. J and him had a conversation once about their similarities. And J said we both had to hurt people we didn't want to. And we both live with it every day. Different traumas, same problems!
I have a girlfriend from work, also from Detroit. Her hubby is/was (not sure about that) a gang member. She was telling me about his behavior. Anger. Hypervigalant. Sleep disorders. Trust issues. Etc... I told he it sounds like PTSD. He should see a doctor.
Again, different traumas, same problems.
This is why we're all here. To figure out this bi*ch called PTSD.
As for you not being sure if you love your kids?? You fought for visitation. That speaks volumes to me. Lots of dead beat dads out there!! Your feelings and emotions will come back. Give it some time. All those things you missed out on as a child. Go do those things with them. Ride bikes. Picnics. Sing and dance. Sports. Coloring....:)
It won't be easy. But one thing we know is you're tough and determined.
XO