Difficulty with looking at t

[UnicornSightings]

DITTO! :cool: To the left is my "go-to", also. :D

Haha that’s awesome! There’s gotta be something to that!

 

[cinderellafaye]

I am also physically turned away from her. I look on the left side of the floor.

 

[Ms_Lemonilla]

I also look to the left :oops:

 

[Mach123]

I have difficulty with eye contact in general. It's submissive to look away. The therapist turns her head to catch my eye and bring me back to looking at her. I like to look away as I speak and look at the images in my mind instead. I guess it's lazy to look away also. : ( I know If I look up and scan people look away they won't meet your gaze (like walking into the gym). You have to feel 'solid' to meet people's gaze. It's a challenge, but if I feel nice and smile that works best.

 

[somerandomguy]

You have to feel 'solid' to meet people's gaze.

Whoa. I guess I just realized why I never look anyone in the eyes.

 

[MyWillow]

I look down and to the right when I start dissociating. Even when I (guess I) am co-conscious I can fight that and look for moments of eye contact. It's such a relief that I can grab a second or two. When I've completely left the room I've felt my T moving slightly to seek my eyes. It helps.

 

[MrMoonlight]

I tend to stare at eyes (long story) but when my therapist and I dive into my past my eyes are down and to the left. Looking at her while deeply recalling the arson feels impossible.

 

[ShadowWolf]

I'm looking away most of the time. I usually look to the right because my therapist sits to the left. And often at carpet, even though it's super boring dull brown pattern.

He will sometimes start moving in his chair, lean into my vision, or even raise his arms, I think in an attempt to get me to actually look at him.

Only if I end up sharing something really personal or embarrassing and he is accepting enough, then I will start being able to make eye contact.