Disappointment In Friends And Family

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I bumped in to what I consider to be one of my best friends today that I haven't seen since my accident. (yeah he's only had 6 weeks to come and see how I am) when he seen me walking towards him he waved and got in his car and I honestly thought he was gonna drive off. When i did speak to him it was an uncomfortable and short conversation and when I messaged him later telling him I thought he was gonna drive off he said it was hard seeing me twitching and he didn't know wot to say. I understand what he means but it still made me feel shitty.

 

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I'm so sorry...

It's so distressing, and so common, for this to happen.
It hurts.
It's not you that your friend is rejecting. It's deep fear - of saying the wrong thing, of making it worse for you, of seeing that bad stuff can happen... It can terrify so many people. They just don't know how to deal with the situation of a drastically-altered person/relationship. They freeze, or run, with great fear snapping at their heels.

Someday, as you're stronger through therapy, you'll be able to have great compassion and forgiveness toward the less-than-stellar behavior, and lack of understanding, from friends and family. For now, this type of running from you, right when you need support from those you love, is painful beyond belief.

I'm so sorry... It really stinks when this happens. ((((((Crunch))))))))

 

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I'm so sorry...

It's so distressing, and so com...

I have arranged to go to my friends house for a cuppa this afternoon hope my neck jerk twitch stays at home and he can adjust to me still to see my dad since my accident as well I hold out less hope for that relationship he's never been the most emotionaly supportive father to be honest he's a let down to the point of being an embarrassment

 

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Good for you on arranging to see the friend. I am so sorry about the other friend dissing you being uncomfortable with change. It is a very common problem and it sure sucks when it happens to you. May you find a life full of more worthy and honorable people.