Dissociate with a child

[Anana]

I managed to be resistent to most of my triggers but when I spend a lot of time with my child I go numb. Especially when he offers his games. What's that? Does anyone have this issue?

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

I am not sure it's the same thing, but I know when my children were born and small, I realized how unprepared for life I was and that I didn't know how to play. Especially games. It makes me feel dumb and stuck that they have to show ME how to play.

I still have a hard time coping with being around little ones and I'm a Grandma. They seem to trigger me into a state of "what am I doing?"
I feel unprepared for life in general and just move forward because there's no choice...

 

[Teamwork]

Oh my yes. I can cook, clean and do the household finances but sit down and play? I do not know what happens to me. My kids are grown now, but throughout their childhood I had to find ways to play that I could relate to so that I could at least do that with them and not feel things I didn’t understand. I could teach them, but play always fell apart. I did play backgammon when they were older, but I can see it was more teaching than play. As in it had rules. There is no rules for play and it could be why it was too much to do it.

 

[TruthSeeker]

Play is my number 1 favorite thing to do and this is when Im happiest! I’m plsying when Im doing art, making doll clothes for charity, doing pottery, fishing, doing wildlife photography, making my own homemade pizzas or having a card game w people over. I thing of riding my John Deer lawnmower as playing! I also get one of those 10 ft long 2.5 ft baby pools and sit in it in the summer- more like a heated pool. Play is just something you enjoy and have fun doing to me, anyway!