Do I Qualify?

[Lucycat]

I appreciate your point, regarding the importance of therapy, and its ability to make a difference even in such a fundamental fear.
But did you start your therapy with a dog as your therapist?

Ha! Obviously not. I guess I am saying that I truly believe that even apparently unsurmountable problems/fears can be made better with therapy.

I cannot believe I am even saying that - I would not have believed it a few years ago. I just know what a difference therapy has made to my life, and it makes me sad that others are unable, for whatever reason, to access it.

If you could access the therapy where you are, at a price you could afford, what would be your aim? What changes do you want to make? In what way would you like to process memories so that they have no power over you? How do you see recovery of the future?

 

[Promicarus]

I think it would be counterproductive to engage at this point.

In referring to "Administration", rather than using names, in my personal posts of thanks to others profile, I was attempting to avoid conflict, not cause it--by avoiding any appearance of "making anything personal".

To be accused of "trolling" for doing so is more than surprising.

And to be told to "Cut the nonsense", and that I am "very close to the line", for only taking what I thought was a subtle hint by the site Administration, that I should pursue help for another issue first-and then thanking others for their support, without using names, in order to avoid conflict?

I can certainly accept that I've misinterpreted something-but when someone goes on to say something like "If you meant me, why didn't you use my name?", feels like being told "You talkin' to me!? You talkin' to me!?" at the beginning of a fight.

While I'd be the first one to accept that I simply misinterpreted something, if that were all that was said-at this point I don't think there's any question but that I would feel more comfortable elsewhere.

"Cut the nonsense and stay-or leave, the choice is yours"

Yes it is. Thank you all for your support.

 

[cherryblossom]

One comment by me, has been taken out of all proportion. You took my comments, and labelled the whole administration team here. That's very unfair to label them, if it was because of one comment I made. That was why I asked if it was me you were referring to, not to start a fight, but to clear their names, if in fact your issue is solely with me, and not them. Talk to me, about something I said that upset you - don't blame the Administration team. Talk to me!

Again, you make assumptions, that I want to start a fight - far from it. I gain absolutely no pleasure in such altercations. However I do find it offensive that you would question and state untrue facts, about administration here, when it seems to me, that your issue is with me, not with 'Administration'.

Of course you cause conflict if you write to other members telling them I (or Administration - however you want to put it) have told you that you are not welcome, which is far from the truth. I never said such a thing, nor did I imply it. This is my forum, which I welcomed you into with open arms. I made one comment, which you didn't like, and suddenly I'm the bad guy. As is apparently the whole administration team here (or is it just me, I'm really still not sure?).

The thing that got me was, you didn't say 'I don't feel welcome here'. That would be fair enough, that would be a true interpretation of your feelings. Instead you posted that 'Administration has made it clear that I should seek help elsewhere', which is an out and out lie. Posting inflammatory, and mean spirited comments (including lies) is trolling.

Clearly you have an issue with what I said, which you are not willing to discuss in a reasonable manner. I get it - You didn't like what I said, that's fair enough. If you want to leave, leave -stop posting.

If you want to discuss how I upset you by my comment, then we can discuss that, but if all you want to do is bad-mouth me to other members then forget it. Forget this forum.

I know you are hurting, all your posts scream of it, we are here to offer to support if you want it (that's an olive branch, if you didn't spot it).

 

[rightkindofme]

I can see how both of you have read the exchange the way you have. I think that both of you have been earnestly trying. I wish that both of you could read the other persons messages from my point of view. I can so clearly see how you are both trying and feeling really bad.

I'm sorry it has gone this way. I don't think it HAS to go this way.

 

[Badger]

I feel like that didn't have to happen. Promicarus is not a troll. He's just really stressed, He has PTSD too, in fact some of us here are friends from that forum. I am going to try to get you guys are all back together :) Wounded people, people in pain, are sensitive, about a lot of things. Sometimes so many things hurt, its hard to tell which hurt is coming from where:cold: