Do you take care to look presentable and nice?

[Cannottakethis]

I used to put make up on every day. My clothes matched. My hair was done. Then my memories came. 1991. I gained 75 pounds. Had the same pants and shirts in 3 colors so I'd blend into the background.
As I pushed those memories back into the depths I lost the weight, dressed up again, put on the make up. But a pretty outside doesn't cover the twisted inside forever.
Fast forward to 2011. Casual work environment. Left 2nd husband. Was taking care of the body but not the mind. As I got thinner I stopped wearing contact lenses and almost no make up. My new boyfriend/now husband said I looked prettier without it.
After several significant hospitalizations I decided to stop working. This was in 2013. I'm still never sure what to wear on a daily basis unless it's workout clothes. I have forgotten how to put makeup on and my hair is almost to my waist. My weight fluctuates and I struggle with body image and diet.
I hate the way I look most of the time. I stare at myself in the mirror and pick myself apart. Hard habit to break.

 

[Rani G2]

I'm wondering how many of you take care to look presentable, or are you more inclined to just

Hello Sheilakathy,

i think carrying a deo is a good idea...must do that too.

I like to "control" many areas. I try to appear natural as possible, but behind that appearence there is work like eating 4-5 organic foods a day, 1 - 2 litres water, sport ( not much though), using different oils for skib, hair growth etc. .

In my mind, i want to go against suffering ( Who doesnt?) So i do everything to stay healthy.

Purusha

 

[Changing4Best]

Yes, I eat quite healthier than I used to also. I try to eat plant based foods more now than I used to. Seeds, nuts, veggies, fruits... my medical practitioner even told me last week to take a half an organic banana with the peal on it (cut the tip off of it), soak it in boiled water for 5 minutes and then drink the water, peal the banana and eat it too, before bed. She said this would help me to sleep! So I have done this for the last 2 nights now and it seems to help me to sleep. It is the weirdest advice I have ever gotten medically, but hey! If it works, do it, right? She said it would increase my magnesium and potassium levels and help to offset some deficiencies in these that some of my medications are causing.

 

[Rani G2]

my medical practitioner even told me last week to take a half an organic banana with the peal on it (cut the tip off of it), soak it in boiled water for 5 minutes and then drink the water, peal the banana and eat it too, before bed

Sheila, thats an interesting method. I am going to google that. Anything that works.... plus if not too much pesticide leftovers are on the banana cover. Organic ones should have much though......

Yes, it makes sense to reduce artificial stuff, if doable...

 

[Chiqui]

Sometimes...mainly if I go out after lunch. But, when I awake in the mornings, I still suffer the nightmares' kick and I am half awake. So I try to avoid chat/people contact, and just jump to the street with the first thing I find around. Get coffee, cigarrettes, shopping and slowly I begins to be in this world.

 

[Naoru]

Always presentable, always nice. The level on the spectrum may change but always: showered, clean clothing, make up applied, hair tidy ... generally speaking, a full façade as / if needed.

 

[EmmaOwl]

I sometimes remember to smile with my mouth closed, but usually I forget!

I am currently working on this skill! I had no idea what a difficulty it would be to change. But I do feel better about myself when I remember this.

Mostly I just wear comfy clothes. T shirts, jeans or yoga pants. I used to enjoy bargain shopping and putting together outfits, but now I have little-to-no interest.

Oh! Except sneakers. I love all my sneakers. :)

 

[Changing4Best]

I am currently working on this skill! I had no idea what a difficulty it would be to change. But I do...

I like sneakers on other folks, especially the colorful ones, but I have to wear special shoes with special arch supports in them, and my arch supports don't fit well into my sneakers. Thankfully I have one pair of shoes that they fit in perfectly. I wear them because I have fallen arches. Anyway, these shoes that I wear are kind of like loafers, only they have tassels. People have said they like them, when I first bought them, so that made me feel good. They sure are comfy too, and that matters the most to me!

 

[intothelight]

I use to "dress for success" and was the perfectly coiffed business woman with my tailored suits, bags and shoes. Now I dress for me and the season's of my life. Today, I am wearing a sun dress, my "bilgy" sandals and will have a pedicure and have flowers painted on my big toe nails. It is the first day of June, and I want to feel alive, happy and blessed that I am here today. Sometimes, I just want what is inside to be reflected outside. So I am summer today.

 

[The Albatross]

The whole relocation thing took a lot out of me... I have slumped in this area. Not looking like a vagabond, but not all that interested again yet, in that much about appearance.

I do though take pains to look nice for events and church.

 

[anonymous]

I used to. I was model-sized. 5'9" and I struggled to keep my weight up - 110 - 115 lbs at least. I was underweight, and I knew it and tried to work with it. I was healthy, but I had an extremely high metabolism. I was always eating, making sure I had dense high calorie foods and so on. Clothes-wise, I had my own style and could find good fun clothes at a bargain prices, because I was wearing size 0's and 2's, which were often sent to the clearance section.

After developing severe depression, I was on a lot of medications and my weight literally doubled, to over 200 pounds.

So, no. I don't do anything to make myself look presentable. It's not worth it. I won't take pictures, and I never look at myself in the mirror, because I know I will see that I'm a fat ugly slob. I was never a pretty face and the one thing in my favor was being fashionably slim. I don't even know how to dress the body that I have now. My weight has stabilized at about 160 lbs now, but I still don't know what to do, what to wear. So I give up.

 

[Rani G2]

take a half an organic banana with the peal on it (cut the tip off of it), soak it in boiled water for 5 minutes

Just wondering Sheila? Is this still working?

The looking nice thing is nice, but I decided to keep the "I dont put much effort on looking good" look yesterday at a party. I was very much out of place wearing hippie clothes. I am kind of fascinated by people who get all dressed up, wearing high heels, leather pants, jewellery. I prefer to watch others, but I like the natural thing because its just so comfy.

P