Does Crying Help After All?

[reddy4765]

these past few days I have found myself in a depressive hole of sorts although it seems to be aided by frequent crying spells and baths. do we just have to wait for these feelings to pass? after spending the last couple of days resting I'm slowly starting to come thru this funk. do y'all have weeks like this sometimes? unfortunately have obligations which, although can wait, am putting off too long.

 

[Ladyghosthunter]

Yes, sweetheart it does. If you need to talk, I'm here. I'm just cleaning out my yarn to sell and getting the back bedroom ready for a guest bedroom. I'm going through my own work related stuff where the workplace violence happened and it's making me mad. Just let me know when you're "reddy" to talk, hon.

Love, Heather

 

[shimmerz]

Crying. Worst.Thing.EVER. I would rather die. I mean that. Once it starts it never stops for me. It is terrifying.

EDITED to ADD: I think (no, I know) somethings really bad happened to me when I cried as an infant, so I have a reason for this. I don't want to freak others out with this posting. Sorry about that.

 

[reddy4765]

thanks everyone.
my crying is 'in control' so to speak what's worse are the memories. a lot of things which I regret despite not my fault.
sry to hear abt the violence at work ladyghost, I have been there too. :0

 

[WildMermaid]

@reddy4765 There are times when crying can feel really out of control and not so healthy, but other times when a good cry (or a dozen) is quite cathartic. I think the the only person that can know for you is you. :) Trust yourself I wish you the best. :hug:

 

[reddy4765]

@WildMermaid
it feels neither, but I think I need to be there with the feeling. it feels absolutely miserable but is over at last.

 

[Suzetig]

Hard as it is sometimes you just need to go through it. I think I must have cried every day for about 9 months - seriously I could have grown a whole new person in the time it took me to cry through the stuff I had been through. At the time each episode of crying felt uncontrollable and didnt seem to make me feel any better but over time it's one of the things that has helped me get to the bottom of how I'm feeling. I still now have times when I feel tearful but much less often and I can usually "find" the thing that's upset me.

It's horrible to go through it but trust that your heart and mind know what you need to heal.

 

[Ladyghosthunter]

@shimmerz
NO NEED TO BE ASHAMED!!! You know...I wish I could talk to each one of you and hug you all. I will cry with you, how's that?

 

[shimmerz]

I think we all need to hang around a big assed table and drink coffee/tea/milk/eno together.

 

[SabrinaB]

I think eventually it does. Crying has been my constant companion these past 2+ years. And no, I wasn't much of a crier before all this. I really don't experience the sad type of thought induced crying much though. Looking back, crying was the first sign something was wrong. I'd find myself starting to tear up at places like the doctor's office. Felt silly, but think that type of crying comes from a scared child part of myself. For sure not a pretty site this winter when I had 2 full day evaluation with forensic psychiatrist for my disability insurance. Started crying from the first moment and never let up the entire first day. I think that experience was more traumatizing than anything that came before it.

Another type of cry is when I experience these horrific physical/emotional flashbacks. Just full-on assault that racks my body with intense pain, dread, and fear. When I stop holding it back it takes me over and ends with gasping, sobbing crying. Hell living through it, but there is a degree of relief after.

And then there is the therapy office crying. Cried every week since December with new psychologist. Finally easing up and now is starting to feel more like relief tears washing over me as I confront and reveal inner dark secrets. So embarrassing though trying to make a graceful exit out the building afterwords. Always a challenge slipping past the toll booth attendant. Darn kid is so sweet and always concerned, even though I try to sit in car to pull it together first. One particularly tough week I was relieved to see a different young man in the booth as I approached. Thought I'd skate right past him anonymously, but nope, that didn't happen. This kid was about 19 and he looked at me more deeply than my family or friends ever have. He was not at all self-conscious when he commented on my red, puffy eyes and acted genuinely concerned for my well being. I never expected to find compassion in these strangers. Made me re-think my stereotypes and has renewed my hope in humanity.

Thanks for bringing this up. Hadn't noticed the evolution of my crying until typing my response. I now can say for certain that there has been a releasing, cleansing element to the tears. Maybe not immediate or even short-term relief, but over time the crying has been helping my body and spirit within heal.

 

[notsurewheretoturn]

Crying certainly helps me, although it probably doesn't feel like it at the time - if that makes sense. I can rationalise afterwards.

I've cried in private and in public, I've even sobbed on the shoulder of a friend who had no idea of why, I've broken down in front of my GP, at the bus stop, in the bath, anywhere I've had no choice.

The worst thing to do is to try to stop yourself from crying, because that just makes whatever's getting to you harder to handle.

Sob it out - its happening because you need it to.