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I cannot stand a raised male voice, and it will send me into a complete panic attack. Yet, children playing, arguing or talking all at once does not bother me at all. Too many phone calls and adults seeking my attention can make me shut down, but put the same activities with children and there is no shut down.
Basically, there are the same sounds and levels, but created by two different groups of people. Ultimately, two completely different responses on my part.
So basically, I set boundaries. No raised voices allowed at home or work. Everyone has to approach me one at a time, and if the phone rings, have a seat and don't hover. I will get to them next. If my extended family doesn't honor it, it warn them that I will hang up or leave if they do not settle down. If they don't then I do. No second chances.
Basically, there are the same sounds and levels, but created by two different groups of people. Ultimately, two completely different responses on my part.
So basically, I set boundaries. No raised voices allowed at home or work. Everyone has to approach me one at a time, and if the phone rings, have a seat and don't hover. I will get to them next. If my extended family doesn't honor it, it warn them that I will hang up or leave if they do not settle down. If they don't then I do. No second chances.