General Does this sound like PTSD, please help

[SamRuck]

The experts love to say that d.i.d. is pretty rare, but now that my wife and I have been in this journey for the last ten years, I wonder if it's not as rare as some think. You have to remember that d.i.d. is just part of a spectrum of dissociative disorders which include ptsd. When the personality fractures and dissociates that's where you see so many of the other mental health issues come into play because each alter only controls part of the brain/mind's abilities. But people with d.i.d. go to GREAT lengths to appear 'normal' and the host often won't even realize what is going on. If you met my wife, NONE of you would know she has d.i.d. And I still think back and wonder how we got so lucky to have a counselor see it almost from the start because my wife had nearly ZERO of the hallmark 'signs' of d.i.d. like voices and losing time that I was aware of...until we began the journey and welcomed the others into our family and marriage. I wish you well.
Sam

 

[SamRuck]

Hello xxxxxxx

I gave thought to one of the points you mentioned on Wednesday. DID, now before you mentioned it, I had briefly heard of the term but did not know much of it.

I think that is all I can say on the subject from what I have seen, but as I mentioned My wife does not really trsut me with her thoughts and worries and what she experiences.


Many thanks

Ok, for some reason this email didn't show up in my feed. Obviously I can't say for sure that she has d.i.d., but if I were a betting man, I'd say there's a pretty good chance she does. Most people expect to see the overt switches between alters that Hollywood loves to portray in the movies, but the reality is that only 6% of people with d.i.d. do that because the alters aren't made to feel safe or welcomed like they were in our family/marriage. So for the most part you'll see switches in 'mood' and emphasis and not the voice changes and wardrobe changes like on The United States of Tara.

If you want to talk more or have more questions, I'd be happy to do so. My wife and I used attachment principles to help her heal, and I swear by them. It's made a huge difference in our experience, I believe. You could check those out.

Sam

 

[Justmehere]

@ruskin - you indicated your wife left you. Are you two in the process of a divorce? Can you explain more about what the contact you had you can you explain more about what contact you have with her now? What did she say as to why she left the marriage?

 

[Friday]

You might consider dissociative identity disorder. It's often misdiagnosed because it encapsulates so many other mental health issues including ptsd, and your wife definitely meets some of the hallmark requirements like abuse/trauma at an early age in childhood

By that standard, also every single personality disorder, and roughly half of the DSM.

Just because you have a hammer, doesn’t mean everything in the world is a nail.

Attempting to diagnose someone’s ex online, from a handful of common behaviors and possible symptoms? Is disingenuous at best.

 

[LuckiLee]

Now you guys want to put the D.I.D. label on her? Even if she does have it? You two are not qualified to diagnose. Leave it up to her physicians. Please.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Leave it up to her physicians

Agreed 100%!

It's not helpful, at all, to armchair diagnose. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder that is now possible to be removed from my medical records due to trauma and PTSD answering all of it. Also, there is something called OSDD1 that is very close to DID but misses the main diagnosis criteria. I had 10 people yelling DID to me but I miss the diagnosic criteria. So, yes, leave diagnosing up to the doctors. It is not helpful to seek diagnosis off the internet. Self diagnosing via things like webmd. And especially not helpful to diagnose another.

If she won't see a doctor then ask about how to support/handle symptoms but leave diagnosis out of it.

 

[Kubash16]

I apologize for being the first one to do that.

 

[EveHarrington]

I don’t think you know just how harmful it is to pin a diagnosis on someone without having the authority to do so. It can be extremely damaging. I’ve had it done to me so many times.....it’s one of those things that’s on a list of things to fight, but I just don’t have the energy because I’m too busy simply surviving.

Please, leave the diagnosing up to professionals who are qualified to do so.

Otherwise you are just making things worse.

 

[ruskin]

Ok, for some reason this email didn't show up in my feed. Obviously I can't say for sure that she has d.i.d., but if I were a betting man, I'd say there's a pretty good chance she does. Most people expect to see the overt switches between alters that Hollywood loves to portray in the movies, but the reality is that only 6% of people with d.i.d. do that because the alters aren't made to feel safe or welcomed like they were in our family/marriage. So for the most part you'll see switches in 'mood' and emphasis and not the voice changes and wardrobe changes like on The United States of Tara.

If you want to talk more or have more questions, I'd be happy to do so. My wife and I used attachment principles to help her heal, and I swear by them. It's made a huge difference in our experience, I believe. You could check those out.

Sam

Thanks SamRuck for sharing very kind. May well have a few questions one day, just struggiling to keep on top of stuff at the moment, lot going on sadly (seeing a solicitor today and then need find some accomodation)
thank you ever so much

 

[ruskin]

@ruskin - you indicated your wife left you. Are you two in the process of a divorce? Can you explain more about what the contact you had you can you explain more about what contact you have with her now? What did she say as to why she left the marriage?

Hi Justmehere,
I left my life last week following 9 years of issues surrounding mental health. The final thing was 3 months ago her moods and behaviour went really downhill. I tried my best to kindly get her to agree to speak to her doctor but she wasnt up for it. She would rather end the relationship than receive help. I therefore moved out as sadly alot of her behaviour was abuse and i was unable take it any more. We have no contact now it seems.
Thanks

 

[ruskin]

Now you guys want to put the D.I.D. label on her? Even if she does have it? You two are not qualified to diagnose. Leave it up to her physicians. Please.

Very true but my question was "does this sound like ptsd" i was trying to see if there was potentially more going on. It appears there may be more going on.
Sadly my wife will not see a physician, so we must leave it to her

 

[ruskin]

I don’t think you know just how harmful it is to pin a diagnosis on someone without having the authority to do so. It can be extremely damaging. I’ve had it done to me so many times.....it’s one of those things that’s on a list of things to fight, but I just don’t have the energy because I’m too busy simply surviving.

Please, leave the diagnosing up to professionals who are qualified to do so.

Otherwise you are just making things worse.

Again true EveHarrington, but i can assure you nothing has ever been pinned on the person in question. All we can do is she has the strength to look after herself and consider getting help