Don't Know What To Do

[LostBear325]

So, in the past few months my flashbacks have been getting progressively worse and I will admit it has been pretty hard to be around me. I have been cranky and jumpy but I have been trying to remember that not everyone is out to get me.

Well, for the past couple of weeks my girlfriend of 3 years has been very distant. She is always texting someone and then tonight I went over to kiss her and she closed a window on her laptop really fast like she was hiding something. When I asked her what she was doing she completely flipped out on me.

I have such a strong feeling that she might be cheating and I don't know what to do about the situation. I love this girl and she has been everything for me. I cannot imagine my life without her. So how can I fix this?

 

[LostBear325]

Maybe I'm just being paranoid. I feel like everyone around me would be happier if I wasn't around.

 

[Froggie]

Don't be too hard on yourself ((((LostBear)))), maybe there is something and maybe it's completely something else. Yes it looks suspicious, but the only way you can get that cleared out is right down ask your girlfriend if she is seeing someone else. But are you ready for that answer ? How will you deal with it if it is "yes" ? Will you feel secured if she says "no" ? Whatever you decide, keep coming online for support, don't stay alone with that.

 

[nimkekaa]

Are you able to talk to her about how you feel? Maybe letting her know how you feel about her and that with all the stuff you are dealing with (assumed as you are on the PTSD forum) that maybe your are over reacting but you wanted to have an honest conversation about it.

There are lots of reason's for privacy and they are not all bad. Birthday surprises, a friend with a serious problem that she is trying to help but can't share with you ect. Maybe she will talk to you about it.

If she IS considering seeing someone else maybe by talking to her openly about it then she might open up to you and you can work things out.

Good Luck

 

[Magnoliagal]

You can't fix a problem that involves someone else unless THEY are willing to work on it too. The only person you have control over is you. Your gut is telling you something is wrong and her actions clearly state she is hiding something. Can you do some investigating to find out if she is cheating before you confront her?