Emotional Incest And Unspeakable Truths

[Lade]

I think it takes a lot of emotional fortitude to face this stuff.

But it's worth fighting for your future and your family's. She's at peace, you deserve it too.

 

[Raki]

I can't even imagine what my wife would think if she knew- I know secrets are not good for a relationship, but how the hell do you offload this pile of crap?

In my opinion you have no need to share this with your wife. Therapy takes place with your therapist. If there is fall-out from the stressful therapy session then by all means tell your wife that - that it was a difficult session. She does not have to know the details if you don't wish her to. Offloading is to your therapist not your wife.

I have certainly not shared with my husband all the intimate details of the sexual abuse I endured as a child. I don't think it would be helpful for him. As for the really difficult stuff in therapy - well sometimes I would write it down for my therapist and at other times he asked me to think about what happened and then we discussed the emotions and feeling that surrounded the thoughts. I found that very helpful as I find it difficult to get the right words - especially when you are tipped back into child mode again.

 

[Ababe]

Thanks for your perspective, Raki. I plan on taking your advice!