Relationship Encouragement I Hope.......

[Amack]

I have been a member on here a very short period. I have taken much consideration from supporters and sufferers. I have been to therapists over the years with my sufferer. One thing that has stood out to me like a light in the dark is PTSD symptoms do not make a person have hostile and bad behavior. It took awhile to understand my sufferer was in full blown addiction and I didn't notice because I was justifying much of the behavior due to the PTSD diagnosis. I would like anyone who reads this to know that this was an injustice to the pure hurt and ache that PTSD causes it sufferers. Not all will do as mine did and self medicate with addiction (to whatever)......but I would plead with you to pay attention to your sufferer and changes you begin to see. If they are not seeking help and refuse it, GET YOURSELF help. If you suspect addiction DEAL with IT. The sufferer can not begin to heal from PTSD if they are addicted to a false coping mechanism.

This is where the Hope and encouragement comes in......Its been dark, no doubt. But finally he is seeking help. He is in inpatient treatment for 3 months.It took almost 5 years to get here. It was forced. But he was also ready. So whoever you are there is HOPE. PTSD sufferers are some of the strongest and most honorable people because they hurt so deeply and continue to try. Mine is a hero. Literally. Not for the accolades and awards he has received but because he is trying........If you can see past the PTSD, and see a future most likely they will too. HOPE.

 

[iamexisisting-z.l]

Wow this is incredibly heartfelt :hugs: .... I'm reading this as a suffer and it means alot to hear such understanding :):tup:

 

[Amack]

Wow this is incredibly heartfelt :hugs: .... I'm reading this as a suffer and it means alot to hear s...

HUGS right back!!!!! :happy:

 

[ladee]

Thank you for that Heartfelt and expressed concern for those of us with PTSD. So nice to read. Makes me feel like human with problems, not a problem trying to be human.

 

[Neverthesame]

@Amack well said.

Especially the part about caring for a sufferer does not mean allowing them a free pass for abusive/self destructive behaviour.

After all, both sides of the relationship are people. :)

 

[Nicolette]

One thing that has stood out to me like a light in the dark is PTSD symptoms do not make a person have hostile and bad behavior.

While PTSD is not an excuse, in my opinion it does contribute to bad behaviour and can make someone hostile - first hand experience for 9 years! But in saying that, I don't think it's an excuse....

I was justifying much of the behavior due to the PTSD diagnosis

This happens where bad behaviour is excused due to a PTSD diagnosis and I do not agree with bad behaviour being acceptable due to suffering a condition.

 

[Milo's papa]

@Amack, I'm so happy to see that your sufferer is getting the treatment he needs to beat the addiction problem. A lot of people with mental health issues attempt to escape them though self medication. I know this from first person experience.

Hopefully the teatment program your sufferer is in will also help get them on the road to dealing with their PTSD, not only while in treatment but afterwards also.

I wish the two oof you nothing but the best in youur future.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you, I so agree with you. I learned so much from this thread for myself.

 

[Livy's Mom]

@Amack i am so happy to hear this news. I'm sending all of the positive energy I can your way.

 

[Amack]

@Livy's Mom @gizmo @Milo's papa and all others Thank you, I am glad this was encouraging to you all. He is in a treatment center for both addiction and PTSD. My hope is that he finds a way to begin to heal and then with outpatient treatment program is able to continue healing and stay the course.