Ptsd Sufferer. Sorry you have been through so much. But your experiences and mine are very different. The psychopath I know, would never admit anything. Thats part of the game. Play cute and harmless, but as you said, be the puppet master. It always comes at you from somewhere you werent expecting. The only thing you get is ....surprised. And its set up in such a way that if you open your mouth at all, they are the 'victim'. Its beyond me how she thinks of what she does and how cleverly its done, but she's already got her bases covered before it bites you. Cat and a ball of string.
I would be the last one to deny the actual 'cleverness' of these individuals. But this one never confronts over her cleverness. You just see that vague smirk in the eyes as they congratulate themselves. And the target is normally someone or something you love, or someone or something that loves/like you.
The aim is to destroy. Pure sadistic, cold blooded, calculated methodology. What they get out of it is enjoying seeing the pain, the distress, the anguish. They study the victim, know where and how to hurt them most. And smile while doing it. Quite calm and unruffled. Its a game. Its a dangerous game. But to them its a game. The game supports their delusions. The game makes their delusions seem real to others.
F**k, shuddering again.
Sociopaths and pychopaths are a very very different species. One is self focussed and lacking empathy (ruthless) and the other seems to be focussed on their particular victim. The NEED to have a VICTIM. A specific one on one victim. And if that victim is no longer available....they simply look for another one. They seem to NEED to prove their cleverness by destroying a victim. And god help anyone who tries to expose them. You see they would love that game even more. They are so clever you see. F**K this has me shaking like a damn leaf.
I'm off for a walk. Change channels and get my legs back.
Hi Jacquie,
I am sorry this has caused so much distress. Our experience is more similar than you probably think. The plan maybe different, the 'players' may be different, but in essence, we can describe the same 'condition'. We do look at it from a different perspective though.
You are right. They always have to have targets. Sometimes more than one at the same time. There have been targets before me, targets along side of me and will be targets in the future. It depends on what sick desire they need to satisfy.
The psychopaths I encountered had good cause to believe that they could expose themselves because of my reactions to trauma situations could be used to their advantage. They thought they had covered all people and bases in their plan, so that they could deceive. They also had so much faith in their ability to deceive and faith in the 'image' they created for themselves. They have by all accounts 'deceived' such a long time, and slipped through the cracks on many occasions. This builds up their sense of power and indestructibility.
They do, however, slip up occasionally. With such faith in their ego, they can make little mistakes. There can be a growing number of victims that discover each other. When their plan is derailed, they can be forced to act spontaneously (they have an inability to think things through, they can only think of their plan and the parameters of their plan). They can slip up is when they have not counted on the 'variables' of human emotion and behavior. People can change their course of action, walk away, or behave in a way that the psychopath cannot predict. Humans can do something differently to what we usually do, we can be 'unpredictable'.
They honestly believe that they know people better than those people know themselves. Yes they can read us, yes they can hone into our 'buttons', they can identify flaws to 'exploit', and they do. They also want you to believe that they can do this as it gives them more power. The more you destroy someone, the lower their confidence goes and the higher the ability to control. In reality, chaos theory rains, and factors can be changed. The problem is the consequences of being the one to derail their plan - what that means if you are the one to do that. In my case - I become a 'threat' and 'dispensable'.
They don't care about slipping up, because the 'grandious' part of them thinks that they are able to get out of anything, by being (as you say) 'clever' at deception. Your psychopath obviously slipped up enough to have a group of victims gathering together to form a case against him. The factor that stopped him being 'outed' was his ability to charm, and deceive, his way out of it with the T. That is the fault of the T, for not seeing through the 'smoke screen'. So, most of the time they succeed at deception even when they have been caught out. But when they do slip up, I pray that a psychopath's target has a tape recorder strapped to their leg to capture it all!
Also, I should note that we wouldn't have known what a psychopath was unless some slipped up and were jailed. This is where the study of psychopaths began, psychiatrists looking for common behaviors, brain patterns etc in convicted murders. Those that slipped up, gave us the classification of the conditions - sociopath, psychopath.
