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Junebug Ptsd feels different to me every day, ha!
.. I would really appreciate my immediate family 'getting it' as much as possible so they could help me, and sharing the information with a SO in the future.. I think I just really need a little more help than I can give myself right now.
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Definitely..maybe , I don't want to discourage you or mean to sound harsh, I hope I didn't! That is what is great about here, we can ask questions and get all types of feedback. :)
I do truly hear you. I guess what I mean is, the ptsd remains with us, whereas those around us, and accompanying triggers unfortunately, will always be there. I have simply found it easier and more productive to learn and practise ways to manage the ptsd, since I will never be able to control others or my environment (unless I isolate myself).
I think it's wonderful if your family wants to help. You mentioned you want them to realize how much you suffer, in that what a struggle it is. That is true, it sure is! But, if the situation were reversed, would you want them to 'get you to understand' how much they are struggling? Probably you would realize they are struggling. But worse yet, not know how to help, or cannot help. That causes awful suffering when you care about someone. :( . Or you would end up walking on eggshells (not good). The real truth is though, there are ways that make it easier, but we
do have to be the ones to help ourselves (to learn how, independent what other people know about ptsd or not, or are supportive or not).
In terms of a future SO, I hope you won't worry too much what to say or not. It will depend also where you are in life at that time, you will have different answers and revelations as you grow. And the relationship to your SO will be unique (as every relationship is). That will help guide you. :)
As you said, it's different every day and you are learning everyday! :tup: Maybe you should explain and describe to your loved ones how YOU feel, your words as your experience is unique. :) You have ptsd, therefore you have the knowledge and just have to speak your truth (which you know and have a right to say). :)
Best wishes! :hug: