Explosive Anger and How to Control It

[popeye]

Thank you all for the help. I did read the forum stuff too lots of good info there. My wife just joined the site too so she can understand it better as well. I wish my son were old enough to understand all of this fully.

 

[Manic11]

Popeye,
I've been wanting to reply to your thread for a while now but I have been having trouble thinking of what helps me when I deal with sudden rage. I just end up doing what most do... break things until I finally snap out if it.
I hope you found something helpful throughout the site and I'm definitely proud that you're trying to find something/starting this thread.

The thing is...I never stop to think about what could help when I'm bursting with rage (hell...who does!) but maybe next time, I'll try to take a few deep breaths and try to find something. If I do, I'll defintely let you know.

I guess I'm not much help... Haha.
Take care of yourself Sailor!

Manic

 

[lost without help]

ok here goes i'm really new at this so not sure how it works. My PTSD was just diagnosed so really losted about all of it. Today I lost my temper at work and quit (this happens on alot like every job I go though about 5 jobs a year this way) and i have no idea how to cope with not just losing my temper but the guilt i feel after I get home so sick of crying all the time any ideas?

 

[Irton Pike]

lost

that sounds like you haven't got any control of your anger. Why do you get angry? what sparks the outburst?

 

[lost without help]

At the moment it seems like just about anything. That day it happened to be my supervisor instead of telling me what she wanted she just making nasty remarks within my hearing range. At one time I would have just blocked her out but it just seems like I can't stop the anger now and it's triggered really easy so the bf found out. I feel horrible when I lose my temper. It seems so much worse now that I've been diagnosed, it's like all my emotions are right at the surface and I have so little control.

 

[pianogirl]

Hey Popeye,

I'm still in the midst of working with my anger issues. Yes, the forums have some great articles on anger issues.

I've always been called a "spaz" or whatever since I was a kid, but lately I do snap and get really irritable and angry, especially if I'm startley, tired, or hypervigilent. Ideally, I AM a pretty mellow person, but then... something comes up.

Lately, I've been doing a lot more physical activity. I run about 3 miles every other day. I'm a pretty competitive person, and just pushing myself as an athlete (even though I'm more of a recreational runner now) helps me. I guess it gets rid of that extra energy.

I hope this helps a little.

pianogirl

 

[anglico2024]

I have Explosive Anger, but it's somewhat control with Zoloft and my psychotherapist, but since my dad died in May. All bets are off. Goodluck brother. You're not alone.

 

[talkingjack]

Pills Don't Work

Try EMDR - google it, good info. Same has helped me some but not a fix all, at least not for me.

 

[popeye]

I am doing EMDR right now and it doesn't seem to be doing much... I have been to about 10 sessions of it already and still no effect on me. wondering if it is even going to work. But i am still going because that is the recommended treatment according to alot of doctors

 

[TLight]

High Popeye;

oops.....mean't to say Hi.
Anyway, I started on Seroquel about three months ago now and I'm on 100mg that I take at night. Last time I had a 'fit'.......I noticed that I wasn't as much controled by that powerful rage instinct. Like there was some space between me and the power of the emotion. I was more like standing back from it.

I still had a fit, but it was no where near the intensity of the rages I've suffered from my entire life.

And believe you me, I could definately rage like crazy........I had a boss change the locks on the office doors cause of me telling him off. He deserved it, but it was definately a substitute for me telling Daddy off and I really let him have it.

Also, don't let things build up. If I'd of laid down some strict boundaries regarding how this butthead was treating me right from the very beginning, I could have probably circumvented the whole nasty scene and dealt with him

Dealing with difficult people will always exist. But recognizing immediately when someone is treating you badly (which is hard for me to recognize cause I'm so darn used to it) and then taking positive action in a self-caring manner can really put the kaboosh on some of the rage.

Anyway, this drug has been a GodSend to me, so I thought I'd share.

 

[Manic11]

EMDR takes a while to kick in but I'm sure it will help, Popeye. Keep trying.

Manic

 

[Deleted member 541]

I found that working on my trauma and feelings greatly reduced my rage. Before, I could go from zero to bitch in less than a second....Now it takes at least 6 seconds....LOL!!! Seriously, I rage much less these days, actually not much at all now....