Relationship but fits here, too.
Hi, I've been with my other half for 10 years and we have 3 children together (they're 6, 7 and 8 years)
I don't really know if I'm going to word this well but I'm finding the relationship difficult....See what he doesn't know is that I've been in therapy for the last 2.5 years for childhood s****l ab**e and r*pe. There are reasons to why he doesn't know any of this, mostly down to the fact that he has contributed to some of the trauma - he r*ped me 3 times and has had s*x****y coercive behaviours in the past....but I'm not sure he'd see it that way. My sex drive is non existent and I'm purely going along with it to please him (which I know I shouldn't, but I feel bad) My other issue is that when he hurts me during sex (unintentional, I know he doesn't mean to) I can't say anything to him and I don't know why I can't. I don't want to associate sex with pain, more so than I already do but I don't know how to bring it up with him. I've wrote about him before. I know I have. Its just a difficult situation
Hi, I've been with my other half for 10 years and we have 3 children together (they're 6, 7 and 8 years)
I don't really know if I'm going to word this well but I'm finding the relationship difficult....See what he doesn't know is that I've been in therapy for the last 2.5 years for childhood s****l ab**e and r*pe. There are reasons to why he doesn't know any of this, mostly down to the fact that he has contributed to some of the trauma - he r*ped me 3 times and has had s*x****y coercive behaviours in the past....but I'm not sure he'd see it that way. My sex drive is non existent and I'm purely going along with it to please him (which I know I shouldn't, but I feel bad) My other issue is that when he hurts me during sex (unintentional, I know he doesn't mean to) I can't say anything to him and I don't know why I can't. I don't want to associate sex with pain, more so than I already do but I don't know how to bring it up with him. I've wrote about him before. I know I have. Its just a difficult situation
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