Those who are highly suggestible and easily hypnotically induced are more vulnerable to implantation of memories that are not real.
Children fall under both the above categories. But even then, children grow up and reflect and correct false memories or lies told to them, as is mentioned above, if they establish safety and self-compassion.
Unfortunately, not all gaslit, abused kids grow up to be adults living a life consistent or ordered enough to establish a sense of safety within which to heal to the point of accepting their flashbacks or body memories as real memories. They will have to explain them away and remain in the dark.
My poor sister is in this unfortunate state. And it's upsetting to me.
I'm learning to accept this is the way it works, and there's nothing I can do or blame myself for about it; she still has a way of idolizing her abusers, defending them no matter what they do, that can only be described as Stockholm.
She is still financially dependent on our parents, at age 38 and on her second marriage, and feels she has no option other than to submit to the fantasy that they are caring parents, despite it all. The fact they give her enough money to barely survive maintains this illusion.
It's a deal: I give you money and say something almost nice, now and then, and you don't remember anything too nasty.
Children fall under both the above categories. But even then, children grow up and reflect and correct false memories or lies told to them, as is mentioned above, if they establish safety and self-compassion.
Unfortunately, not all gaslit, abused kids grow up to be adults living a life consistent or ordered enough to establish a sense of safety within which to heal to the point of accepting their flashbacks or body memories as real memories. They will have to explain them away and remain in the dark.
My poor sister is in this unfortunate state. And it's upsetting to me.
I'm learning to accept this is the way it works, and there's nothing I can do or blame myself for about it; she still has a way of idolizing her abusers, defending them no matter what they do, that can only be described as Stockholm.
She is still financially dependent on our parents, at age 38 and on her second marriage, and feels she has no option other than to submit to the fantasy that they are caring parents, despite it all. The fact they give her enough money to barely survive maintains this illusion.
It's a deal: I give you money and say something almost nice, now and then, and you don't remember anything too nasty.
