Family Visits

[trying2movefwd]

I love to have company, but get anxious about it so i hate it at the same time...it's like, "come here....no no go away!" ...Anybody relate? I don't want to isolate, but i want to isolate. *sigh* /kicks the dirt, stupid ptsd/

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

I have the VERY SAME PROBLEM!!!! It takes away from being "excited", which is what I would prefer to feel!

Haven't figured out a solution yet, I just wanted to let you know that I completely understand!:tup:

 

[Snowflake]

Yep! The only ones that has come to my home in the past 22 years has been my children's friends. (Not often though) My home is my safe zone and when someone enters I am on guard/nervous, even if it's a random person knocking on door. Ugh! However, I wish I had friends to invite over-a dream someday-but not yet. Maybe not ever. But right now I know every nook and cranny, every sound, and every smell in my home ---letting someone in changes all of that .

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

@Snowflake I COMPLETELY get it!

 

[shimmerz]

/kicks the dirt,

They should include this in the DSM - I do this a TON! I think it is a 'thing':O_o:

 

[Lee2001]

Yes! Totally understand! Talk about mixed emotions!

 

[Gadgie]

Since my wife died in 2014 I've had no visitors at all, don't get me wrong, as to be honest I prefer things this way.

As the only visitors to this house was membors of her large family, along with her kids, and our G/Kids, the house was always busy and full.

My wife spent her last five years bed bound, so obviously the family came to her, as she was terminally ill, but none of them were of any help me with caring for her? Towards the end all of her family turned against me, and even my wife joined them.

It's been two years now, and I've got used to living alone, and the only people I would allow in my house now, would be people I trust!

 

[Rollercoaster]

I too feel that my home is the only place where I feel completely safe. People do come in from time to time, but I am always more comfortable when they leave. It's the noise that gets me. If they're quiet all is good. If they are loud it just sends my anxiety through the roof. Sorry for your loss Gadgie.

 

[MichelleMillen]

My only visitors are my brother and his wife, and my daughter and her husband. Visits are rare and I get very excited at having someone over. I have always enjoyed their visits with zero anxiety. My anxiety starts when it is time for them to leave. I get worried that I am going to be alone again, and then when I settle back in to being alone, the anxiety really spikes as I analyze the visit, looking for things I should not have said, whether I passed or failed. I have lost all confidence in my social skills and also worry if they will keep any confidences I might have kept to myself.