Father

[Recovery4Me]

Consider that if you wish, perhaps call your Father at the hospital or Skype? Plan B might be to contact a sibling who is going to the hospital and they can hold the phone to his ear. It may bring closure and peace for you if you desire this.

This is an devastating time with many soul wrenching challenges and I am beyond sorry for your pain and your Dad. I am also sorry for your stay in the hospital.:hug:

I am not sure what to do.

Do not give up!
Separate the concerns, sit down with your partner and address what you feel you must do for you and your Dad as this is a short term window. Perhaps (if I may be so bold), sell one car quickly and take the money to fix the other. In the states, we can even sell a junker for quick cash!
You are stronger than you think!

 

[Bookoffee]

I received a text that My father died at 5 am this morning. I didn't go to see him. I am not feeling anything. I can't grieve. I am not sure if I will I will go to his funeral. I am unsure what to feel or think. I don't have a therapist to turn too.

 

[Recovery4Me]

I can't grieve

There are times when one's loss leaves a space so profound...no feeling dares to venture for a bit within that hallowed ground.

I am sincerely sorry for your loss...

 

[ms spock]

I am so sorry for your loss @Bookoffee.

 

[Bookoffee]

I just read my father's obituary. I am not listed as his daughter. I am no one.

 

[ms spock]

Oh gosh @Bookoffee - I am thinking that it was a really good thing that you stayed away from this situation. This is a really toxic thing to do to someone! It is cruel from my point of view.

I am so sorry for your grief and so sorry that you have been left of the list of offspring - that is very hurtful indeed.

 

[Recovery4Me]

The paper can correct it. There are mistakes made all the time.

 

[Bees Are Awesome]

Oh Bookoffee. I'm so sorry for all you are going through. Wishing you peace.

 

[Bookoffee]

I am sitting here staring at a fishbowl that carries the small roses and a shell my father gave me.

The shell from the night we first time we met and the roses for when he said good-bye at a young age.

He also left a card. I am debating if I should put a note in the small ziplock bag that holds one of the roses.

One part wants to write:

Surviving daughter, my name

Or how he played into such an abusive childhood.

 

[Bookoffee]

Today is the day. I still don't know if I can make myself go. I wrote a letter to him. From the moment I found out he was my father to the moment I had to stop seeing him and his family because it tore me apart hearing and seeing the safety everyone had growing up. I felt out of place in their present. I had a breakdown and stopped talking and was hospitalized many times.

I am thinking I should stay away and mail the rose and letter to my oldest sister.

My body is sore and tense. My wife had to wake me up many different times for screaming or fighting in my sleep.

 

[Purplemunchkin]

I'm so sorry to read all that you are going through Bookoffee.

I don't have any words of wisdom to offer, only :hug: if you want/need them.

x

 

[Bookoffee]

doing awful. I don't even remember half of this or where to even find a letter that I wrote to my father.