Fathers Day Is Such A Horrible Day For Me Since He Is My Primary Abuser

[Springer80]

I WISH I'd told him when he was still alive what a completely selfish, spoilt and cruel b@stard he was and how much he hurt all his children. I wouldn't still be carrying that little nugget of toxicity around with me now.

Personally, I'm looking forward to the funeral....where I can tell everyone what he was actually like. I'm going to do it for my brother too and for my mum (even though she has never stood up to it or for us).

 

[Laura 2]

Personally, I'm looking forward to the funeral....where I can tell everyone what he was actually like.

That was sort of in my mind too. What I found was that most of the 150-odd people at bio-father's send off either knew already or were so besotted with him that for them he could do no wrong. Neither lot could care less. My bio-father kept everyone in segregated compartments, few of which met until the funeral. It was only a couple of years after that several more of his abandoned children emerged from the shadows. Yep, the pos continued to shock even in death.

 

[Springer80]

150-odd people

Wow! I'd be surprised if 15 people turned up to my fathers. Last I heard he was living in a caravan and run down out building on some farm scrubland. The only people he knows are others as messed up as him, none of them like each other.

I get what your saying about there being no guarantees of getting a positive response. I learned that from the reactions of my family members when I told them and the 'support' I got when I tried to prosecute. I'd be doing this for myself though.

 

[Philippa]

I've had many fantasies of standing on the stage at my fathers funeral, and telling everyone who knew him, and thought he was such a nice guy, what he was really like to me. I know my brothers would probably stop me and drag me off the stage if I did. I spent fathers day watching the Lord of the Ring trilogy and getting stoned with a guy I just met, so it passed me by and I was able to completely forget it was even fathers day...bonus.