Feel Like Crying When You Comfort Yourself?

[WillowMarie]

I noticed that sometimes when I comfort myself by saying things in my head after I get triggered, that sometimes I start feeling like I am going to cry.

I tell myself, it is okay, I am not in danger right now. Or use my therapists words, "It is out of reach. There is nothing I need to do."

Does anybody else notice this?

 

[CVC]

I cry when I'm flooded with emotion, no matter what that emotion is, whether it's positive or negative. One of the highly overwhelming (and therefore tearful) feelings for me is self-compassion. I'm so used to being hard on myself, it catches me off-guard, and it feels overwhelming. Maybe that's close to what you're describing?

 

[WillowMarie]

I'm so used to being hard on myself, it catches me off-guard, and it feels overwhelming. Maybe that's close to what you're describing?

I was wondering if it was close to this. I was almost thinking it was relief or, I don't know how to describe it. Kind of like, even though it is myself, that my needs and fears are being recognized. The compassion makes sense because if I never really had that before, if I give it to myself, almost more like a peaceful tears come through.

I know I also feel like crying when I read about a good parent who acknowledges and validates feelings to a child. It is like this deep sorrow surfaces when I read/hear things like this. I wonder if, I am validated that it is okay to feel these things and reassuring myself it will be okay, I just feel these crying feelings come over me because it is the self-compassion. Kind of like, that felt really good to hear, it is finally good to hear that.


It is good to know that other people experience this.

 

[CVC]

I was almost thinking it was relief or, I don't know how to describe it. Kind of like, even though it is myself, that my needs and fears are being recognized. The compassion makes sense because if I never really had that before, if I give it to myself, almost more like a peaceful tears come through.

Absolutely, yes! That's a nice way of putting it.

 

[WillowMarie]

Thanks CVC :) I was having a hard time trying to explain it, so I'm glad it makes some kind of sense to you.