Feeling Abandoned By T

[loui50]

I know this is completely irrational, but i feel abandoned by my T because she cancelled my appointment for next week and can not reschedule until the 2nd week of jan. I normally see her every week and this is a 3 week gap. I am a mess just thinking about it. I know she is doing the best she can but i can't make the abandoned feeling go away.

 

[Muted]

I know this is completely irrational, but i feel abandoned by my T because she cancelled my appointment...

I don't think your feelings are irrational at all. Sometimes I think T's can forget that when we're working on issues that we need that regular contact and support, plus it's a trust thing.

I think naturally as people heal that they become more independent.

Can you do a phone session or email or text at all during this time? My T. is extremely rigid and refuses any contact outside of a session. I know this has impacted my feelings of safety and how deep I will and will not go on issues now. But, I also pushed on that a while back so I can understand why she keeps me at a distance. My past T's were great about that and I never pushed it, but I also hadn't gotten as deep into issues as with this T.

I completely disagree with a T. opening someone up for trauma work and being 9-5 M-F only. I think they would have better success with fewer clients and actually being there for them, I also would be more than happy to pay for when I needed to contact them after business hours.

 

[Friday]

So what helps lining up knowing in your head it's irrational / not an abandonment, and feeling in your heart?