Feeling Abused In This Relationship, And Expecting.

[Kadie]

thanks....trying to figure this all out, hard...really is...Love is a tricky deciever.. ha

 

[ClairBear226]

Good luck, Kadie. Come find me any time you need to hear one more time to get the hell out of there. ;) One of these days, I hope you find healthy love. Look for it, seek it out, and reject anything that isn't. You'll know it when you find it.

 

[jka37]

Kadie, yes, get out. I am proud of you in advance.

If you have doubts, pretend you're reading about a close friend and read over all of this...what would you tell her to do in your situation? Because you deserve the same respect and love that your cherished ones do.

 

[Kadie]

your all right...its just a matter of finding it within myself to get out....find myself again, and be ok with being a single parent again, it's scary..but I am too tired to fight for this relationship anymore.

 

[ClairBear226]

It's time to stand up and fight for yourself, Kadie. And for your child. I was not a strong person when I started that process. I became one, though. And you can too.

 

[Girl3]

Chemistry is blind,deaf,dumb,and obstinate - except that chemistry isn't love. Chemistry is that feeling you get that revs you up because it is familiar - and we all like familiar even when it is bad-familiar. I learned this from one of the books I read recently - it explains my history of abusive relationships. I'm not comfortable unless someone is torturing me, degrading me, disrespecting me.

Something in your past is causing you to stick with someone who is emotionally abusive. Not acting in a loving way cannot be love - he does not love you. You love the abuse or you wouldn't stay in that relationship. You love the brokeness or you wouldn't continue to deal with it.

If an absolute stranger did this these things, would you allow it? (I hope not.)

You are teaching your child to be abused. You are teaching your child that abusive relationships are OK. The norm.

Please please please get out of the relationship - don't spend years of your life wasting your time on idiocy.

And please let us know how you are doing - because men like that can be dangerous.

 

[Selena5473]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I went through this exact same thing with my ex. We had our first son when we were 18, and after I gave birth the abuse started.It started out with him yelling at me in a similar way. I got pregnant with our second son when I was 20, he would hit me, shove me. Tell me the baby wasn't his. When I had the baby, he would shove me with our baby in my arms. He would slap me. It was terrible. I was with him for 7 years before I finally had the courage to leave. Let me tell you, it is so worth it. It was very very hard for me for the first year and a half, lonely and sad. Everything reminded me of him. It wasn't until I met my current boyfriend things became brighter for me. He treats my sons like his own, and treats me like a woman. You will never know true happiness within a relationship until you find someone that treats you how you deserve to be treated. Please don't stay with him for the baby as I did. You deserve so much more, and your baby deserves the world.