"feelings" Are Something You're Supposed To Talk About?

[The Albatross]

True, but the coping skill to survive becomes maladaptive when the threat is gone... it is limiting... severely rather than useful. It robs us of the breadth and scope of living wholly and limits/boils down experiences into three notes or so rather than the extensive chart I posted.

Mal adaptive coping style... when the threat has passed. It's an instinctual defensive maneuver even though there is not necessarily a direct threat. When that happens it is a thinking style/behavior or habit.

 

[The Albatross]

edited it... don't want to lard up Scout's thread.

 

[The Albatross]

Derealization could apply as well... Only Scout can say I expect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Derealization

 

[scout86]

@The Albatross, you don't have to worry about that. Interesting information, all of it. I need think on it some.
I think I'm actually very in touch with my thoughts. Might ignore things like pain when it's inconvenient. My T has suggested that I never learned to recognize feelings because they normally didn't matter. I have a little trouble believing they might matter now. It's an interesting idea, for sure. I appreciate the input!

 

[The Albatross]

I'd come back to this in your opening post "T says there's concrete evidence that shows it can produce changes in the brain that might be good".

 

[Saria]

She sounds like she's talking about a version of reality where you're performing with a net.

I think this is why I didn't get much from that Ted talk. Thanks.

But are we really "netless" though, or do we just feel like we are because it used to be true in the past? So that the safety net actually is there now, but it's too hard to trust, because we've never seen one before. I mean - you wouldn't jump out of a plane if you didn't believe in parachutes. No wonder this is so hard.

 

[Heather]

Not according to my mother..... she doesn't want to know anything about anything... especially how an event affects you or makes you feel..... maddening.

 

[moshpitmunkey]

When we engage in expressions that are centered around our thoughts and feelings, we process those t...

Beautifully written and explained. It really made me rethink a lot about how I'm going about healing and change.

 

[The Albatross]

I loved Inside Out and got that even the "feelings" we don't usually subscribe as being useful (or the ones we don't want) have a purpose.