Hey guys, my name is Liz. I'm really new to this site, actually signed up like five minutes ago, and I'm hoping I'm in the right place.
I've only been with my man about a year now. We just recently had a child three weeks ago, and things have been going fairly well; up until now. His nightmares have become atrocious and his hallucinations are worse than ever, to the point of where he won't talk to me about them. With the stress of a new baby, and with added stress from work and moving, they've become his living nightmare. The only reason I know that they've become so bad is from my mother who spoke with him earlier in confidence on his behalf.
* He went through a tough childhood. An abusive step-father who tied his arms behind his back and tossed him out of a three story window, among other things, and a mother who just denied everything, despite seeing the bruises and the constant broken bones are what started off his life. When he was ten, he witnessed his younger adoptive brother get shot in the neck and bleed out in the street, while he hid behind a trash can or mail box - I can't remember which at the moment. About a month before we got together, his five year old son from a previous relationship had passed away in a car accident because his son's mother drove while high on meth, and of course, she survived the accident. *
He, to me, hallucinates seeing his baby brother and his son. Sometimes they're normal, and other times they're decaying. I know that to him, they're as real as you and I. Recently, from what I've been told by my fiance and my mother, he sees his little brother standing over our child's crib, singing horrible songs to her about killing her/my fiance- I'm honestly not sure which. He has tried therapy in the past and it didn't work; neither did medication, so he's not willing to try to go again with an open mind that for the sake of our new baby girl, this may work this time.
As you can imagine, as a new, first time mother, this really really concerns me. My fiance's vise used to be drugs before we met, and alcohol before and after we'd met. He made me a promise to stop drinking as much as he was - as much as a 24 case in one sitting - and he's kept his promise.
I don't know what to do, if there's anything I can do, to help him. I feel like I can't help him, honestly, and I really truly want to. I'm asking for advice here, because I don't know where else to turn.
If you have any tricks or just anything at all, like advice or reprimand on my part, please feel free to add onto this thread. I just want to help him get through this.
Thank you so much.
I've only been with my man about a year now. We just recently had a child three weeks ago, and things have been going fairly well; up until now. His nightmares have become atrocious and his hallucinations are worse than ever, to the point of where he won't talk to me about them. With the stress of a new baby, and with added stress from work and moving, they've become his living nightmare. The only reason I know that they've become so bad is from my mother who spoke with him earlier in confidence on his behalf.
* He went through a tough childhood. An abusive step-father who tied his arms behind his back and tossed him out of a three story window, among other things, and a mother who just denied everything, despite seeing the bruises and the constant broken bones are what started off his life. When he was ten, he witnessed his younger adoptive brother get shot in the neck and bleed out in the street, while he hid behind a trash can or mail box - I can't remember which at the moment. About a month before we got together, his five year old son from a previous relationship had passed away in a car accident because his son's mother drove while high on meth, and of course, she survived the accident. *
He, to me, hallucinates seeing his baby brother and his son. Sometimes they're normal, and other times they're decaying. I know that to him, they're as real as you and I. Recently, from what I've been told by my fiance and my mother, he sees his little brother standing over our child's crib, singing horrible songs to her about killing her/my fiance- I'm honestly not sure which. He has tried therapy in the past and it didn't work; neither did medication, so he's not willing to try to go again with an open mind that for the sake of our new baby girl, this may work this time.
As you can imagine, as a new, first time mother, this really really concerns me. My fiance's vise used to be drugs before we met, and alcohol before and after we'd met. He made me a promise to stop drinking as much as he was - as much as a 24 case in one sitting - and he's kept his promise.
I don't know what to do, if there's anything I can do, to help him. I feel like I can't help him, honestly, and I really truly want to. I'm asking for advice here, because I don't know where else to turn.
If you have any tricks or just anything at all, like advice or reprimand on my part, please feel free to add onto this thread. I just want to help him get through this.
Thank you so much.
