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Due to trauma-based symptoms, I had workplace disrespect that grew until I had to issue a harassment charge. I've since left that workplace, but I still run into people from there who are angry about the charge and try to show aggressive disrespect, spreading it to others.
For conflict, I have the choice of kitten or tiger. [I used to freeze, but symptoms got better.] Mostly, I only ever let kitten show on the outside, so people think I'm a pushover and keep trying to show increasing disrespect. But if I go tiger, it's a little too much and it's going to look like I was the one in the wrong. I come off as that one irate customer who leaves the customer service representative trembling as I walk away. (I've only done this 1 or 2 times. It doesn't feel good, I don't like it, and I don't think it helps to solve the problem).
If I could just control that Fight or Flight trauma symptom, I think I could engage problems with reasonable tone and confidence. But half the time I'm looking at them smirking and misbehaving the way one might look at a kitten who's teasing a tiger. A lot of these people are a few cards short of a deck.
How do you calmly inform an idiot that they are setting your agent orange off and would they please stop?
For conflict, I have the choice of kitten or tiger. [I used to freeze, but symptoms got better.] Mostly, I only ever let kitten show on the outside, so people think I'm a pushover and keep trying to show increasing disrespect. But if I go tiger, it's a little too much and it's going to look like I was the one in the wrong. I come off as that one irate customer who leaves the customer service representative trembling as I walk away. (I've only done this 1 or 2 times. It doesn't feel good, I don't like it, and I don't think it helps to solve the problem).
If I could just control that Fight or Flight trauma symptom, I think I could engage problems with reasonable tone and confidence. But half the time I'm looking at them smirking and misbehaving the way one might look at a kitten who's teasing a tiger. A lot of these people are a few cards short of a deck.
How do you calmly inform an idiot that they are setting your agent orange off and would they please stop?