First Therapy Session From Hell!

[ClairBear226]

Wow. That sounds so much like the first therapist that I saw that it's downright spooky. I made it through a total of 3 sessions. Long enough to get the diagnosis of PTSD , and be told I must not want to get better, since I wasn't willing to spit out the entire story on the spot. He made it clear that I was a waste of his time, and I wound up leaving halfway through the third session. The experience turned me so sour against any type of therapy that it took me 18 years to go back. Thanks to him, I muddled through completely on my own for a very long time.

I'm glad you treated this as an interview process, and put the failure of a match squarely where it belongs, rather than handle it the way I did.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Monster, you're a lucky duck! ;)

I am, and I try to think about that when I fire him, lol. I fired him 6 times now and he says that its part of the process.

 

[tphillips117]

Wow! 6 times? Poor guy, it must hard to keep getting dumped. I still miss my old therapist. He didn't really help me, but at least he was nice.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Wow. I'm so sorry that was your experience.

That T. is, at best, unprofessional, poorly skilled, and has little to no training in trauma.

I'd ditch him and not let any of his issues stick in your psyche. ...and I'd report him.

Trust yourself, keep trying. All it takes is finding one that is 'good enough' and there are plenty around that do qualify.

 

[OKRADLAK]

WOW! That therapist has serious issues.

I think we have all had awful ones. One I had, he was closing the session after 1/2 hour. I said, "Wait, I paid for an hour!"

He got really pi**ed and leaned back and said, "Well, start talking!" And just sat there.

I think I said some unsavoury stuff and walked out and made a complaint.

It's good to make a complaint even if no one listens.

Others have really lit into me unless I said what they wanted to hear. I have noticed that like what others posters say. If you go against them, they can get mad.

I have a new T and she is really nice, but then I am so beaten down, I do just agree with what they say. I do that without knowing it. Once in a while I will be able to say what I think. I do try.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I have a new T and she is really nice, but then I am so beaten down, I do just agree with what they say. I do that without knowing it. Once in a while I will be able to say what I think. I do try.

I do that too, and I don't realize I've done it until weeks later. It sucks because then I get mad that I agreed with something I didn't agree with.

Wow! 6 times? Poor guy, it must hard to keep getting dumped. I still miss my old therapist. He didn't really help me, but at least he was nice.

I called it quitting therapy, he called it firing. It is our joke now.

 

[Chosen]

Haha, I quit therapy once with my T...only has happened once, but I could totally see it happening again and he and I joking about it.

Sounds like your T is really nice...I love having jokes with my T. It makes it feel more real and genuine.

 

[NIKI]

That T needs his own T.:alien:

 

[tphillips117]

Therapist Interview Update: So today's visit was very different than that of last week, but I wish I had been a bit more prepared for how this guy was going to look.

He came out and WOAH, he looked like a mad scientist! Kinda like the old guy from "Back to the future". Yeah, that caught me off guard! But then I got in the back, told my shpeil, and he was so nice, understanding, and totally GOT ME. I've never been that understood--and it was a 90 minute session to boot. So yeah, Albert Einstein is in the running (wasn't Freud a weird looking guy too?). Today was a solid B+, but I'm still not commiting to anyone--I've still got two more to go.

 

[Chosen]

Thanks for the update! I can't wait to hear how the other two go! :)

 

[tphillips117]

You're welcome. I'm on my way to see my next one at 3pm (EST). I'll post back again later. Noah, you and I should should private chat. I think we could really support each other! :)

 

[Taven Carlsen]

I think Freud was just fat. If I was a therapist *I* could be your Mozart-haired therapist tphillips! If I was black I could be Cornel West and I could be your therapist, and I wouldn't insult you.