First Therapy Session

[Just tryin to heal]

OK first Therapy session is on Monday and over the past two days my Anxiety has been very high im scared to go im scared to not go are they going to be mean, nice, care, not care im scared if i don't i will drive my wife away and loose my kids but what if going makes it worse two days away and I just don't know what to do this sucks so bad i have not smoked a cigarette in a year i have not drank in weeks and i i want both right now I know that's not the answer i just need some support i just need to know that this is going to work i just cant calm down i hate this.

 

[Momofthree]

If it helps the anxiety is normal. It's a big step and big steps are always scary. Take a deep breath and try your best to distract yourself, worrying isn't going to make the two days come faster or slower, it's just going to make you miserable. Congrats on the being smoke free for a year! and you are right drinking and smoking won't help anything and it could make it worse. You've got this. You've survived way worse then a therapist and you are stronger then you think.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Would it help you to hear that oftentimes the first few sessions are just "get to know you" type sessions that don't dive into anything deep? The therapist may ask you why you are there, and you can briefly mention your trauma, but more likely than not, he/she isn't going to ask you any details or get into anything too deep. Most therapists know that the first meeting is just to determine if the client/therapist are a good fit. Maybe you could go in and tell the therapist that you are very nervous and this is hard for you? Honestly, this oftentimes doesn't get much easier even if you've been to a therapist before....(I'm not sure if you have). I made an appointment to see a therapist next week and I'm already stressed and thinking of cancelling. I've had probably a few dozen therapists before.

 

[Just tryin to heal]

@Momofthree thank you you are right i have survived way worse just need to calm down

@Solara I have been but not for my trauma. I was mis-diagnosedand and treated for for that on and off for the past 25 years. (Never told any one about some of the trauma and was made to hide the rest ie. severe child abuse of many types.) But at any rate maybe the letting them know im stressed out about being there will help i will try that. Thank you hopefully i can get better someday and hopefully sooner then later.

 

[risingsun]

im scared to not go are they going to be mean, nice, care, not care im scared

Remember, you are interviewing the therapist really although somehow (and I've said this before) it does feel like a role reversal. You are interviewing him/her to see if they are the best qualified to assist you on your healing journey. You are going to watch for red flags, whether or not they have empathy, etc. You are in charge of hiring and you are in charge of whether there is a session number 2 or whether you want to keep shopping for the best qualified individual. No need to be nervous. You hold the reigns. Best of Luck to You! Keep us Updated:)

 

[Just tryin to heal]

@risingsun Thank you i hope she works out and i will update

 

[Just tryin to heal]

I went to my first therapy session to day and as said on here it was not that bad other then having to talk about my abuse(at least what i could). Had my self stressed out for nothing it went very well. I let them know when I got there that I was feeling a lot of anxiety and what my concerns where and we went through them. So looks like once a week for 2 or 3 weeks to make a treatment plan then go to 2 times a week and see the doc about meds if needed after that so all in all things are goodish at the moment.