First Time Sex After Rape.

[Frogs88]

Yeah, over three years after getting out of an abusive relationship and I felt ready again. He's a nice guy that i've been seeing for the last six weeks. It didn't seem too soon because he was the right guy. It went fantastically. None of the things I thought would cause a flashback did. He ran out to the shops first thing in the morning to get me a toothbrush when I felt like I wanted to brush my teeth. And told me he had room for me to leave a change of clothes and toothbrush there.

Sorry if that seems like a weird thing to post. It's just with the flashbacks being based around rape I felt like I would never be in a relationship again. Sex was always something I enjoyed so I feel like i've claimed back something that I lost.

 

[illusionist]

It is not a weird thing to post.....I'm sure it will bring hope to many who read it. This is excellent!

 

[shrinkingviolet]

I think it's wonderful and I am glad you have found someone who is sensitive to you and your feelings. Reclaiming your life is empowering and takes great courage. :happy:

 

[Friday]

Congratulations :D

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I think you are very brave and courageous to post this and I am so happy with you. Sounds like you have worked very hard on your healing and recovery and are reclaiming back your soul. Good for you.

 

[PinCushionPrincess]

This is a great thing for you, you have every right to be pleased and share, it's great to hear people reclaiming their lives, every little step at a time! Congrats :)

 

[VioletButterfly]

Yeah for your courage and his compassion! I hope I have the same experience. Right now, I can't even conceive of having sex and it's been many more years. :) VB

 

[Ellabella44]

good for you!!!

 

[garden]

I'm so happy that you were able to reclaim this part of yourself. This is huge, and not at all a strange thing to post. :)

 

[Frogs88]

I feel like I want to add a postscript to this, We've been together four months now. Our sex life is healthy, I only had a mini panic attack once. We are very happy and comfortable with each other and are about to leave for our first holiday together.

 

[Deleted member 29899]

Wow Frogs. I'm really happy for you. This is an aspect of people's lives that is as important as other areas of our lives and often needs healing and recovery. Good for you. Glad it's working out for you!

 

[InvisibleSun]

I'm very happy for you as well...not many of my sexual encounters have been overly significant or meaningful, but I can honestly say that my first sexual experience following my last rape was probably the most beautiful moment of my entire life. It was sweet, intimate, and loving. Everything I needed it to be..it sounds like you have found the same. And I know how very sacred that is..so very happy for you. :)