Forever Alone Club

[Deleted member 12723]

and I'm not into channel surfing so I'm not sharing the remote either.

Me neither. I was married for thirty six years to one man, my only marriage and I still miss him. I knew if I left him and there were surely times I wanted to that I would pick someone who would be worse! I have four years behind me now and I am pretty sure that I am going to stay alone.

I do not like sharing the remote with anyone.:)

 

[mamachick]

I am still married to the Alien sleeping in the guest room for the past several years...but I should be a member as well...just a technicality. If I ever get out of this, I will be single FOREVER and better off for it.

 

[8888]

I'm a member of this club. I'm so anxious I think its best for me. And even if I get over my anxiety one day I'm so introverted that I don't want to live with a partner, yet alone do anything more. To all of you guys here, as Heather Duffy Stone said "there is a certain strength in being alone".

 

[ceruleanblue]

I really don't mind being alone at all. What I mind is other people's assumptions about me because of it. I feel like people pity me, or think I've somehow failed at becoming an adult because I am not partnered up. As I've said in the past "I'm not a sock in a dryer, I don't need a matched up with a mate to be valuable."

It's still tough because of things like money, for example. The career I'm in right now does not pay really enough for someone to live comfortably alone. All of my coworkers are either married or living with a boyfriend who makes much more than they do. For that reason, I'm transitioning to a better paying career, but I'm going through school, and will for a few years to get there.

Christmas is a hell of a time for the FA club, so many parties, so many expectations. I'd rather just stay in bed.

 

[gealach]

What I mind is other people's assumptions about me...I feel like people pity me, or think I've somehow failed at becoming an adult because I am not partnered up

Exactly!!!!!!!! my friends all started getting married about 5 years ago, and now the babies are arriving. I can see that they wonder why I'm always alone, I'm always that friend. I'm older than they are, so I should have all those 'normal' things that grownups have.

I did want the husband, 2.5 kids, and white picket fence, but that ship sailed a decade ago. I've been alone for so long, and I'm so set in my own ways and routines that I can't even imagine being in a romantic relationship.... it would feel like an intrusion. Plus, standards (I have them, so that's automatically an issue with my generation). So, it looks like I'm a lifetime member of the FA club.... and I'm already the crazy bird lady, so I might as well throw a cat in there too.

 

[ceruleanblue]

Yeah, standards seem like a deal breaker for most men of my generation! XD I'd rather be alone than settle for someone I can't respect or like.

 

[8888]

Agreed @ceruleanblue, nothing wrong with being alone. People need to stop judging us.