Friend Advise

[richie80]

Viking, that so much for that. I just finished writing an email to him as you posted this and was able to add to my email. Your comment,

He must know his relationship with you to say something like that. He is saying, he would rather you be clear of a "disease." Well, this is a disease neither he, nor any of us really understand either.

, really hit hard with me and I think you are right. I think he wasn't trying to be pissy but trying to say what you just said. He has been so helpful and he tries so hard to understand.

 

[vikingr12]

Good deal. Glad I helped. Makes me feel good about something anyway today.

 

[richie80]

vikingr12, I actually wanted to follow up and let you (and everyone else) know that I talked to my friend. I wrote him an email and explained everything out. He responded quickly saying how sorry he was. He didn't mean to have to sound like it did. He said he meant that he wants to see me happier and healthier and sometimes when he suggests I do something (like go for a walk) and I say no he gets worried.

 

[vikingr12]

I see this is my wife and me at times too. A lot of things are going on and sometimes it just takes settling down and following feelings.

I worry about how my wife is so curt, even impolite with me at times. But I know it's partly because of the language and culture barrier -- she's Chinese. And I also feel, having this crazy itching crawling animal in my bones, that I am too sensitive because of it. We both worry about each other and what will happen to us.

Just need to let things go sometimes. Let the water seek its own level. Hard to do, easy to say.