Hey guys,
I'm new on here and frankly, desperate for support.
My boyfriend , before I knew him, was deployed to Iraq. He was there for a year and came home because his 2 year old daughter with his wife had died. There is a lot more trauma than I can get into. Basically he was hit by an IED in Iraq, came home to the death of his daughter, tried for special forces twice and was honorably discharged.
He has tried to kill himself twice, not since coming to Oklahoma, but twice in the past. His wife he left tried to stab him in the neck with a butcher knife over a fight and he fled. His daughters are still with her but he isn't in a mental capacity to care for them. She calls every one or two weeks to yell at him over money, despite us sending her 1,000.00 every month. She threatens him with things that aren't really a threat but it gets to him anyways. She also holds his daughters up as a bait for the money she wants. She is a terrible mother but will not give up her kids.My boyfriend isn't in a state to get his daughters so he's swallowed with guilt every day.
His PTSD, when we met a year ago, was manageable. He laughed and had fun and we grew to love each other. about 6 months after we started dating, he started to deteriorate. More things would make him upset and angry. Little things really. He would have nightmares and scream. he would wake up frozen in anxiety.
Now, a year later, little things make him so anxious and depressed. The helicopters that fly occasionally around my house drive him mad. He wakes up thinking the walls are closing in on him. He blows up over nothing like laundry or a cable becoming unplugged. He has gotten lost in the city twice, gone for days. This last time I had to call the police. When he loses himself and wanders, he turns into a rabid animal. He gets paranoid and sees things that aren't there, hallucinates the police are coming to get him or swat when he was parked in front of a house for two days straight.
His PTSD, anxiety and adjustment disorder is becoming an issue now, every day. I'm afraid he will off himself while I'm at work. I'm terrified. We have been to the VA so many times to try and solve this but they just keep telling him that he needs to take more depacoat (he is on like 900 mg or more now) and take more trazadone.
I can't deal with his lazy PCP at the VA. Some help or insight would be appreciated. How do you get help from the place you need it most when you have complained as high as you can go and gone more times than one can remember (The VA)? They will kill him with all the depacoat he is on. Its terrifying to watch someone you love, who you want to marry and build a life together, deteriorate and shrink until the man you love is no longer in his eyes. He just looks sad and reserved, like he has given up hope for living.
I'm new on here and frankly, desperate for support.
My boyfriend , before I knew him, was deployed to Iraq. He was there for a year and came home because his 2 year old daughter with his wife had died. There is a lot more trauma than I can get into. Basically he was hit by an IED in Iraq, came home to the death of his daughter, tried for special forces twice and was honorably discharged.
He has tried to kill himself twice, not since coming to Oklahoma, but twice in the past. His wife he left tried to stab him in the neck with a butcher knife over a fight and he fled. His daughters are still with her but he isn't in a mental capacity to care for them. She calls every one or two weeks to yell at him over money, despite us sending her 1,000.00 every month. She threatens him with things that aren't really a threat but it gets to him anyways. She also holds his daughters up as a bait for the money she wants. She is a terrible mother but will not give up her kids.My boyfriend isn't in a state to get his daughters so he's swallowed with guilt every day.
His PTSD, when we met a year ago, was manageable. He laughed and had fun and we grew to love each other. about 6 months after we started dating, he started to deteriorate. More things would make him upset and angry. Little things really. He would have nightmares and scream. he would wake up frozen in anxiety.
Now, a year later, little things make him so anxious and depressed. The helicopters that fly occasionally around my house drive him mad. He wakes up thinking the walls are closing in on him. He blows up over nothing like laundry or a cable becoming unplugged. He has gotten lost in the city twice, gone for days. This last time I had to call the police. When he loses himself and wanders, he turns into a rabid animal. He gets paranoid and sees things that aren't there, hallucinates the police are coming to get him or swat when he was parked in front of a house for two days straight.
His PTSD, anxiety and adjustment disorder is becoming an issue now, every day. I'm afraid he will off himself while I'm at work. I'm terrified. We have been to the VA so many times to try and solve this but they just keep telling him that he needs to take more depacoat (he is on like 900 mg or more now) and take more trazadone.
I can't deal with his lazy PCP at the VA. Some help or insight would be appreciated. How do you get help from the place you need it most when you have complained as high as you can go and gone more times than one can remember (The VA)? They will kill him with all the depacoat he is on. Its terrifying to watch someone you love, who you want to marry and build a life together, deteriorate and shrink until the man you love is no longer in his eyes. He just looks sad and reserved, like he has given up hope for living.
