Good Doesnt Last Long

[Punky143]

My husband was very nice to me this weekend. But I'm use to this. It will last a little while and then return to his inability to tolerate me. Its ok I tell myself. My father was the same way...

 

[Chem Lady]

It's not OK. It sucks that we learn to tell ourselves this. You are more than something to be tolerated.

 

[expectingbetter]

My father is the same so I get very well what you are talking about
I don't have a husband neither a partner currently but my ex boyfriend behaved so much like my father.

I am even afraid of looking for a new boyfriend not to find another copy of my dad

The way how they treat us is sometimes worse than if they are constantly bad, in my opinion at least
This way I only have feeling of guilt when a dad is good to me for those rare moments.

 

[Gs172003]

I understand

 

[shimmerz]

The Cycle of Abuse

Not certain if you have heard of it but it is an identifiable and predictable process. This site I am going to reference is for teens to educate them to the process - but am putting it here so that you can see the image involved which describes what to expect in each phase of the cycle. I hope it is helpful.

T.E.A.R - Teens Experiencing Abusive Relationships

 

[Punky143]

I can't figure out though if it applies to me? What if he doesn't even realize it? Plus, I'm told I'm all he has since his parents are both deceased and he no longer talks to his sister. So literally, he doesn't. But I'm told thats his choice. But guilt is huge with me and rooted deeply within me and plays a role with everything I/we do.