Googling your therapist

[Scarlet13]

I don't really want to do that.
It is the same page, it just has security settings up so its not showing everything.
I went back to her fb page, saw that she updated it with a cover and I looked and felt good because I knew it was ok.

 

[NightSky]

This might be a little off topic. But my T is very well known by some of my friends and family and our circles overlap a lot. We have some blurred boundaries that i don’t think would work for some, and she shares quite a lot more than i think t’s are supposed to. During our work together over the last three years she has shared things we have in common. Never in a million years would I guess the things she’s told me she has gone through to get to where she is now. I knew her from afar before I started seeing her. She’s attractive, funny, smart, always put together, travels all over, and it seems like everyone who knows her loves her. And if she didn’t share what she has with me, I would probably fall into the same trap of feeling envious of her “perfect life.” I imagine if you had more information you would feel differently. That’s the danger of the highlight reel that social media is. There is probably a lot more there that would put you on what would feel like a more even playing field if you knew it. I’m grateful to my t for what she does share because I don’t put her on a pedestal. I absolutely would if I only had an outsider’s view. Just an aside that’s important to keep in mind as you do this hard work.

 

[Abstract]

Well said. Its also the whole - comparing our insides to other peoples outsides thing...

 

[Scarlet13]

Yes, I agree with both of these responses!
I asked my T if she could sometimes disclose times when she has struggled (without totally putting it all out there) and I think that will help.