Thanks,
@arabianhorselover . I had to learn to schedule my nature time/self-care time/nurturing time just as I scheduled my work days, even when I was still working...or it would never happen...and I'd continue to suffer even more. I still benefit from doing that even though I have more time on my hands. I find it interesting that you don't even know what "your thing" is to be able to enjoy it. What brings you joy and helps you actually relax? Do more of that every chance you get.
I also had to be willing to unlearn all of the previous conditioning/programming stuff, be it religious beliefs, how my body works, what I should fuel my body with, the ongoing effects my choices have on other living things, how I choose to spend my energies, how to breathe, how to think, etc., etc. to make space for more genuinely helpful and nurturing stuff.
That step used to keep tripping me (and everyone else I know) up as I was convinced I already knew a whole lot, or at least enough to carry on as I had been taught, based on years of being ill-informed. Especially if something was taught from a school/higher institution of learning, or was said in the bible, because I was made to believe that's where
all the critical and most needed info is found and should be what we use to frame our lives with, regardless of what else we may think or feel.
May you find whatever it takes to be able to prioritize your own healthful/pleasant/nurturing time, and may it not arrive in the same painful/uncomfortable/unkind fashion that mine did. While it's nice to be in this space now, most days, it was sheer hell arriving here.
We are our one and only best hope for making it happen, whatever the "it" needs to be for our individual needs.
