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Breezy329
My husband and I have been living in my father's house (separate from him) for 3 years. During this time we've done nothing but help him pay his bills in order to keep his house, fix and replace things including extremely moldy conditions, and cook and clean up after him. He had a stroke shortly before we moved in but only affected the specific part of his brain associated with short-term memory. Without us living with him, he would lose everything. Without us living with him, we wouldn't have a place to live since my husband is disabled and has yet to receive disability. We are stuck in a hard place.
Now my problems with my dad started very young when he would clearly treat my brother better than me and ignore my needs. I was also sexually molested by his brother while he was home. I told my mother, which she talked to my dad about. My dad supposedly told her that my uncle would never be allowed near me again. Guess what? He continued to come over and was left alone in the same room as me. He continued to expose himself constantly not only in front of me, but in front of all family members. Nobody ever said a thing about it. He was in a wheelchair and let his dick hang out one side of his shorts, CONSTANTLY. I never looked at him. I was afraid of him. I was also too young to know that this was serious and needed to be dealt with. I blame my dad for the trauma I went through as a child and continue to be furious that neither he or anyone else in his family recognized any problems.
So to this day my father thinks everything's fine and deserves to sit on his ass and do nothing. He calls my husband stupid since he hasn't been to college. He calls him a lazy liar and isn't actually disabled. He doesn't listen to anyone who has actual concerns even if concrete proof is shown to him. He thinks he knows everything and lectures to no end, even when proven wrong. He then goes on to insult anyone who threatens his ego. Well I completely done doing anything for him. I am not lifting a finger for him. The kitchen will remain a disgusting pile of his water-filled dishes for months. I have tried talking to him calmly and nicely and he agrees with me.... but no actions are taken. He is a bastard that I must live with and I can't do anything about it. It stresses me out to no end. I am now pregnant and must learn how to deal with so much bullshit for sake of our child.
Now my problems with my dad started very young when he would clearly treat my brother better than me and ignore my needs. I was also sexually molested by his brother while he was home. I told my mother, which she talked to my dad about. My dad supposedly told her that my uncle would never be allowed near me again. Guess what? He continued to come over and was left alone in the same room as me. He continued to expose himself constantly not only in front of me, but in front of all family members. Nobody ever said a thing about it. He was in a wheelchair and let his dick hang out one side of his shorts, CONSTANTLY. I never looked at him. I was afraid of him. I was also too young to know that this was serious and needed to be dealt with. I blame my dad for the trauma I went through as a child and continue to be furious that neither he or anyone else in his family recognized any problems.
So to this day my father thinks everything's fine and deserves to sit on his ass and do nothing. He calls my husband stupid since he hasn't been to college. He calls him a lazy liar and isn't actually disabled. He doesn't listen to anyone who has actual concerns even if concrete proof is shown to him. He thinks he knows everything and lectures to no end, even when proven wrong. He then goes on to insult anyone who threatens his ego. Well I completely done doing anything for him. I am not lifting a finger for him. The kitchen will remain a disgusting pile of his water-filled dishes for months. I have tried talking to him calmly and nicely and he agrees with me.... but no actions are taken. He is a bastard that I must live with and I can't do anything about it. It stresses me out to no end. I am now pregnant and must learn how to deal with so much bullshit for sake of our child.
