General Have A Rant Thread...

[wife of]

If you just want to have a wee rant then go ahead and let off some steam in here! ....

 

[adeline]

Thank you Sue...I appreciate it...sometimes its good to write things down and then read them.....today was a good day though. We worked on communicating and picked mango and papaya for the jam I make. It was a great day, it made up for the other day.

 

[wife of]

Wow just come back from my first experiance of ward rounds in the psych unit,not a fantastic experiance,showed up an awful lot the difference between civvy mind set and the world of ptsd,I found it intimidating so the hubs must of found it a right ordeal,having to walk into a small windowless room with7 other people seated in close proximity and sat furthest away from the door,think it was pure luck that I was seated in his eyeline,wasnt able to speak to him directly,but he looked like a rabbit in the headlights whilst the unit docs wrangled with a community social worker about getting after care in place.The docs from the unit seem well motivated and have my complete trust,however the social worker has already let hubs down once and seemed perplexed when I was trying to explain to him that betrayal of trust ie not doing things when you say you will is a big issue for ex services mindset where dropping the ball can get you killed.......

 

[wife of]

Going to be off for a few days,things going crap here,got that "my hearts been through a mincer" thing going on and I cant find any sticky tape...

 

[adeline]

take care hope it all comes together!!

 

[willis williams]

Sorry to hear that you are having a ruff go! Yeh those wards suck for the outsider the visiting room all the little cameras being searched before entering. But for me on the inside it was a safe place after the first couple of days it was quiet and had no destractions from my treatment. You are very right aout the betrayel thing and it is even worse when you are lock up and they control your responce to it. The VA broke the federal patient privacy act. they let people know were I was at and even let somebody into the nut house that was not on my list. I lost my job and basically went bankrupt and now the people in the small town I live in treat me totally differant all because of what they called a really bad mistake. I backed off on getting revenge because the nurse that caused all of this was a rotating nurse and was under trained and she would have lost her job and her nursing liscence and posibly been charged with a felony for breaking a federal law and I thaught that was a little extreme. I suffered and still am stuggling because of it but the proseedures have been drastically changed and the hospital staff worked with me to help them not to ever have this happen again. All I asked for was that she acnoledge what she had done heard my story of what she caused and just say I'm sorry they told me that was something that they would make happen been since sept 2 2010 and still no appology. Go figure I can still sue them for a lot of money over this and they treat it just like disability claims thinking I will just give up. Hope this never happens to anybody again but who nose soldiers are expendable.

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Wow just come back from my first experiance of ward rounds in the psych unit,.............I found it intimidating so the hubs must of found it a right ordeal ........................ whilst the unit docs wrangled with a community social worker about getting after care in place.The docs from the unit seem well motivated and have my complete trust,however the social worker has already let hubs down once and seemed perplexed when I was trying to explain to him that betrayal of trust ie not doing things when you say you will is a big issue for ex services mindset where dropping the ball can get you killed.......

Ward round can be very intimidating and a difficult place to be initially but remember hubby has rights and he doesn't have to attend the ward round. If he does wants to attend he should have a say in who he wants there - he could discuss this beforehand with his named nurse or whoever he feels comfortable speaking to.

If it's being suggested the social worker will be his care coordinator in the community and hubby doesn't feel confident about that, because of not being able to trust him, he should say so. In my hubby's case this was not easy to do so he wrote a letter instead.

I'll hold you in my thoughts and wish you well.
Stella x

 

[wife of]

hmm,yes the care co-ordinator point has been raised a few times,kind of been told that we have to just put up with him as there is very limited resources in our part of the world right now and swapping before getting his community care package sorted will add weeks if not months to the process till there is room on anyone elses lists....Going to try to play this one smartly and let the care package be arranged,give it a shot and if its working great fine if not then I myself will be going hell for leather to get him changed,at least then there will be some community care in place rather than the nothing we were left with last time....

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

I guess you'll be going to another ward round on Monday so I hope the discharge care plan has been sorted out. Be aware, NHS staff are having to use up their annual leave before the end of this month so fingers crossed that hasn't held things up for you. (I work in NHS mental health services.)
Good luck.

 

[wife of]

ooooh,that explains an awful lot,thanks for mentioning it,might be why they constantly have mainly "bank" staff on at the moment who seem to have no clue as to how the ward usualy runs.....

 

[wife of]

Today was a completely crap day.....didn't sleep well,anxious about the things that are stressing the hubs out at the moment and then bamm,stress in the post,grey day,hailstones,f*ck up at the doctors about some med dosage,cant get hold of appropriate person to sort out the problem as at the end of the day,throw in some dodgy blood test results for colesterol and liver function......trying to keep a brave face on and be strong to try and help other half stay calm but tonight I'm a quivering wreck and just feel like locking myself away somewhere for a good bawl......Must say the best thing that came out of today was immense pride in the fact that although hubs was wound up to the cieling he kept his cool,very proud of that, Oh yeah the top hat is someone setting fireworks off over the back of our house and its still bloody daylight,,,you cant see them they just make loud boomy bangs....fanbleedingtastic.....

 

[Redheaded Stranger]

Oh Darlin', I'm so sorry your day is crap. Been there a lot myself lately and it just doesn't get any easier. Why don't you lock yourself away and have a good bawl, like you said? Might help and doesn't hurt anyone. Vent away and know we feel your pain and are sending hugs and love straight to you.

Red