Have You Ever Felt This Way?

[Me Myself and I]

Do you Ever feel so much sadness, because of no particular reason? Sadness so deep and strong that you can actually feel it in your heart, an acute pain and weight.

This is how I feel right now!

 

[Misul]

Frequently.

 

[nomedic1]

All the time, it is like the worlds tears has landed on your shoulders.

 

[franciemarnie]

I know the feeling. It's understandable to me when I hear songs that talk about a heart breaking. It can feel like that. It is real physical pain. Sadness like that.

I remember once a few years ago I had a physical feeling of almost unbearable sadness and for like two weeks at least, I had the sensation in my eyes, in my head of imminent tears - I could not get them out. I had to just feel it, feel the grief.

If I wasn't in my numb state, I ran from feeling, particularly sadness and anger all my life so when I was just stuck feeling it finally - no more drugs, ptsd defenses breaking down - I thought I'd die almost. But I didn't.

I feel for you. Big time. This will pass. I know that doesn't help much but I know the feeling and it will go away eventually. Hopefully sooner than later! I prefer feeling now to the numbness. I think it's a positive sign.

 

[KrispyKreme]

I feel that way a lot. Just sad for no reason.

I am sorry you are feeling that way now. Hugs if you want them.

I hope you feel better soon.

KK

 

[ashdawn8287]

I am sorry you feel that deep sadness. I have felt that and been there before. It's okay to let that out and cry. I cried for about 4 days on and off when I came to terms about my traumas. I just made myself cry. Easier said then done, I was scared I wouldn't be able to stop, but I did. And I am glad I did that because once you let all that out, you make space for the good things, like compassion.

 

[wicked child]

Yes. I am aware that i is associated with a sense of loss, and perhaps dread.

 

[Me Myself and I]

I just can't seem to find peace whatsoever. I am trapped with my anxiety and issues in a way that deprives me from seeing the good things around me.

In a way that pushes everyone away, a way that will end me up being all alone!!

Thank you for your replies though.

 

[ashdawn8287]

Look up relaxation techniques. Try different ones and pick the ones you like.

The heart sends more messages to the brain, than the brain sends to the heart. So it is important to develop a relaxation technique, which are usually free like breathing and yoga. The more you force your body to calm the less mental torture you will have because the heart will not be sending those signals to the brain that something is wrong.

It's hard work at first but it is curable.

 

[Misul]

I cannot agree that it's something that "goes away" or that you will "get through". In my case, much of the feeling is from necessary things that a normal developing receives as a child that I never had. My therapist and I agree that the biggest healing factor for me will be getting those things, i.e. affection, in an environment that feels safe. It's because there is an empty space in my heart that was never filled; a space where the foundation brick is normally laid in children.

Also, I am a person who will just never want to be very close to very many people. I have Avoidant Personality Disorder which is closely related to what I just talked about. I don't have to want to be close with others and that's okay! There are a few specific people I've become close with in my life and that's enough for me. My heart and brain know when I am comfortable with someone and I never have to do something I am not comfortable with.

Yes, there are techniques we can learn to help us be more at ease with others, to enjoy life a little more. But a

I am sorry that my words might offend someone, but I do not believe that PTSD is cureable and to state such a thing is extremely offensive to me. Those words are why people tell us to just get over it, they believe that they can cure us, but for some of us who experienced it as babies, toddlers, during childhood development, our personalities are forever changed. The misconception is that we cannot be happy and live good lives unless we are "cured" and everyone is constantly pushing us, trying to change us into some cookie cutter "normal" person. Instead of doing that, we should all strive to understand each other and our unique life experiences. If we do that, then we can understand what it means to be a good person and love one another.

Sure, relaxation techniques can help greatly with anxiety and acute issues but it cannot "cure" PTSD. I do recommend it for deep reflection on the larger issues. It is a part of my daily life and I do not dismiss it. I also recommend reading many books about it so you can understand WHY it helps you and how it affects your body. But for some of us the wounds go a bit deeper and a deep sense of sadness is not really just a day-to-day surface symptom, which is what I understood this topic to be about. Relaxation techniques are only a temporary bandage for this type of trauma (but can aid us in day to day living!) It's something that is held firmly at our core. I no longer try to push the sadness away, instead I have learned to recognize when I'm feeling it and what it might be telling me. Many times it directs me to healing and beautiful experiences. And only you can know what it's trying to say. But your brain wants you to be happy. Remember that.

Try to think of one good thing everyday. For all the pain and ugliness in this world, there is also beauty. Try starting with very simple things. It could be the feeling of water on your hands or a blanket or a nice snack. Look to the small things in life. There is a saying that goes, "When your feeling weary, when you are lonely and sad, let the rhythm of the day soothe you." It means looking to the simplest things for happiness.

Misul

 

[ashdawn8287]

Look up post traumatic growth.

You can cure anxiety. Study it. Do the research.

Should have been more clear lol. My life is pretty busy right now so sorry.

I don't think at least for right now there is a cure for ptsd especially the flashbacks/nightmares. But there is cure for the other symptoms you really just have to be self motivated to overcome it.

I have accepted I will always have nightmares and triggers but I make it more manageable. All my other symptoms are gone.

 

[circe47]

I feel that way frequently. I was just discussing with my sister where this feeling comes from. For me, it is becoming aware of the profound losses that can never be recovered. Whenever I see something or someone that reminds me of what I have lost, I get that sense of grief. I can never recover my childhood, my education, my time spent with people who mistreated me. Those things are lost for good.

I have had to learn to function as an emotionally challenged person, much like someone who has to learn to work with a prosthetic limb. A level of function can be regained, but is always going to be a challenge.