I am just wondering if anyone has tried an on-line site and if it did or did not work and why or why not? I have seen plenty of fish and others that are free like that. There is also E-Harmony which has a low fee. Do you think that by paying and going to the site that actually has a charge attatched to it that there is more of a chance to find someone who is as serious as I am? I do not wanat to be alone forever and want to find a new best friend and someone to share my life with. I have heard that 1 in 5 new relationships are started on an on-line site and it is hard as a 38 year old woman to find people, especially since I tend to isolate a lot. Any and all comments are appreciated. Thanx everyone.
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Have You Ever Tried An On-Line Dating Site?
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Pandora, something to consider is this. While an online dating site might be great for the initial contact within the safety of your own environment, the next hurdle is still having to then get out and meet them. So you then are back at the same point of having to go out!
These sites open doors for you but I think if you found the courage to go out and enjoy something you like doing you would possibly meet someone who had similar interests to you. Anyone can write anything about themselves but the only way you really find out is spending 'face to face' time with them. I do know of some people who have had success on these sites and others which didn't.
For a short time, when single, I joined an Australian site and was overwhelmed by the responses and it was no different from being in a pub full of males except the pub wasn't there. There are still the guys who just want one thing, there are the genuine ones, there are the cheaters and so on. I was talking to one guy who I had reached a level of having phone contact with. He told me he had to go interstate for work but would call me after dinner. He didn't but called the next day with some excuse. Silly him as he profile had shown he had actually been on line the previous night and been active. I told him to take a hike as obviously he was playing the field or checking the site for potential females was more important than calling me. That's just my story and they all aren't like that. I'm open to them but you have to be just as careful as in real life.
These sites open doors for you but I think if you found the courage to go out and enjoy something you like doing you would possibly meet someone who had similar interests to you. Anyone can write anything about themselves but the only way you really find out is spending 'face to face' time with them. I do know of some people who have had success on these sites and others which didn't.
For a short time, when single, I joined an Australian site and was overwhelmed by the responses and it was no different from being in a pub full of males except the pub wasn't there. There are still the guys who just want one thing, there are the genuine ones, there are the cheaters and so on. I was talking to one guy who I had reached a level of having phone contact with. He told me he had to go interstate for work but would call me after dinner. He didn't but called the next day with some excuse. Silly him as he profile had shown he had actually been on line the previous night and been active. I told him to take a hike as obviously he was playing the field or checking the site for potential females was more important than calling me. That's just my story and they all aren't like that. I'm open to them but you have to be just as careful as in real life.
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I agree with Nicolette on this Pand.. People lie, it's human nature of many of these sites. I know that some people must have had success, but how many really do??? I know how hard it is to find someone without going to bars, and when you isolate... It's tough. I too, think that if you started going places with some of your friends, that possibly you would meet some men....
I think with you, it may also be a self esteem issue that holds you back.....You are a very beautiful woman, intelligent, with a good heart Pand, you just need to remember this, and believe it.....
I think with you, it may also be a self esteem issue that holds you back.....You are a very beautiful woman, intelligent, with a good heart Pand, you just need to remember this, and believe it.....
Online dating is the future...Embrace it!
There are rules though. I don't know what they are, but there really had better be because there are some real creeps out there. I'm thinking the pay ones would be better, maybe they actually check to see that the person is who they say they are?...dunno.
I've heard the same statistics as you, but never checked it out.
There are rules though. I don't know what they are, but there really had better be because there are some real creeps out there. I'm thinking the pay ones would be better, maybe they actually check to see that the person is who they say they are?...dunno.
I've heard the same statistics as you, but never checked it out.
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Thanx everyone for the positive comments....
Last night I filled out the forms for eharmony....too funny! Anyway they matched me with two people according to my profile but they both live in the US..though close. One was a registered nurse and the other a retired military..to get a picture or contact them you have to pay the fee. I honestly thought it was about 25.00..LOL. It turns out it works out to be about 300.00....So that site is not going to help because I do not have an extra 300.00 anyway. Maybe one day I will figure this dating thing out!
Last night I filled out the forms for eharmony....too funny! Anyway they matched me with two people according to my profile but they both live in the US..though close. One was a registered nurse and the other a retired military..to get a picture or contact them you have to pay the fee. I honestly thought it was about 25.00..LOL. It turns out it works out to be about 300.00....So that site is not going to help because I do not have an extra 300.00 anyway. Maybe one day I will figure this dating thing out!
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We have one of those dating sites here, for our county, and it's about $500 a year. I was given the link by a customer of mine. I checked it out, but between the fees and the fact that I LOVE being alone, there is no way I would join something like that......
Hang in there Pand, Mr Right is out there, you just need to get out and find him. He certainly ca't find you, if you are sitting at home, eating Nutella......LOL!!!!!!!!!!
Hang in there Pand, Mr Right is out there, you just need to get out and find him. He certainly ca't find you, if you are sitting at home, eating Nutella......LOL!!!!!!!!!!
I met my husband on plentyoffish 4 years ago :) Before that I had tried EHarmony but it's not very well known or utilized in Canada so I didn't have alot of success with matches near me. There's alot of leeches on POF ... I was just lucky as hell to find a mer-man amongst all the bottom dwellers :)
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Try OKCupid.com - it's free. I met my spouse there, so I can heartily recommend it!
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I met my husband on match.com (a pay site). I don't think I'd even know how to go about meeting people if not for online dating sites! Easily helped me weed through men whose interests, goals, etc. were not what I was looking for in a partner. Particularly given that I'm a rather odd sort (woman who doesn't like children and doesn't want children, among other traits), I found it very convenient to not have to go through the whole introduction, small talk, and first date only to find out the guy was like 90% of men, totally incompatible. Granted, people can lie when they answer the questions online, but they can lie in person, too.
I started doing the online dating thing over a decade ago when it was brand new and still free of charge. My then roommate and I both had a blast and met some very cool people!
I started doing the online dating thing over a decade ago when it was brand new and still free of charge. My then roommate and I both had a blast and met some very cool people!
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