Have You Ever Tried An On-Line Dating Site?

[TLight]

I met Scott on Craigslist. I posted a very specific ad about what I wanted and what I would not tolerate.

Before that I tried it for a few years and never met anyone nice. A lot of predators out there that just want sex, so be aware and stay safe.

 

[pandora]

I have read and horrible things about craigslist. Wow...what kinds of things did you write Tlight? Just curious if you don't mind me asking.
Mina how much is match.com. I could not beleive when they actually wanted 300.00 after filling out the questionnaire for eharmony, I was really shocked. Is it comparable?

 

[Mina]

I think match.com was about $40 a month or so? That was 4 years ago, so I'm not sure what they'd be now. I did the same thing TLight did and wrote a very specific ad! I'll send you my list shortly.

Craigslist...yeah, wouldn't recommend that one so much. Met my fair share of lowlifes from it.

 

[catjudo]

Pandora--if you went as far as to fill out a profile on eHarmony (and you're really interested in that particular site), they'll start sending you emails with different promotional offers. I did the same thing a while back but decided there was no way I was willing to shell out that kind of money for an online dating site that I was really just joining because my friend was pressuring me into it. Eventually, they sent me an offer of $19.99/month for three months. I did do that one and it really was all it cost me, nothing extra. At the end of those three months the monthly rate was going to increase but I canceled my membership before that happened.

It was an interesting experience. I wasn't really committed to the idea of starting to date yet. I did meet one really nice guy and went out on a couple of dates with him but nothing more came of it. Like I said, when my three month introductory rate was over I canceled my membership. I still don't think I'm quite ready to start dating again but I don't regret having gone through the experience. If anything, it gave my confidence a little boost that I could get a date with a nice, normal guy (and a 2nd date, at that) when I am ready. I'm just not at that point yet.

 

[PainX2]

When I tried EHarmony, I looked for online coupons. I found a buy 3 mo, get 3 mo free and it cost me $60usd. That was the only time I tried it but if you're really serious about trying them, I'd recommend looking for online coupons to get the cost down

 

[Jawn]

A friend of mine posted on her FB page that she is using Zoosk. I don't know anything about it, but it's another dating site.

Jawn

 

[Inouk]

I agree with AdamAnt. Right now, online dating service here in Quebec is the way to go for people our age while pubs, bars, bistros are crowded by young ones in their teens or 20's (you are considered an adult at 18 years age in this province i.e.: drinking is legal and adult court procedures apply for instance). We have two serious online dating services that are free for women but with monthly cost for men. Both have the mechanism to report predators, member abuse or nonsense. A little bit like this forum, these sites can give warnings to crocodile members, restrict them or banned them altogether. Identity is protected unless under investigation by police with a court order. Sites will then be obliged to reveal your identity.

Just ensure your dating site has these mechanism in place. And by all means, take advantage of their promos and pay as little as you can. Also be as honest as you can on your profile and what you are looking for: love? or friendship? for instance.

I met Rick in 2007, my severe combat PTSD partner, on an online dating site called Québec Rencontre. He was looking for a serious relationship (as stated on his profile). I am sooooooo glad he was ready for a serious relationship for I do not think I would have appreciated getting serious with him only to be dropped after 6 months or a year because of his PTSD symptoms. I, on the other hand, was serious about what I wanted. Just did not know I would fall for this guy and become a carer. Glad I am for I love him deeply and so does he. Does not say it but shows it everyday.

Just my 2 cents guys

Inouk x :-0)

 

[Nephthys]

I had a horrible experience on a dating site… I won't go into detail, but lets just say that's how I ended up with PTSD. There are a lot of screwed up creeps out there. This guy drugged me… I really think people should seriously think long and hard about dating sites. I agree with an earlier comment that Jawn made about going out and doing something that you enjoy. That should really help you on so many levels, not just the meeting person part.