Having A Hard Time With Therapist

[Loveneverfails]

My therapist on occasion completely underestimates me. This wouldn't be a problem if it didn't feel like a kick in the gut of the over sensitive baby, that is my self esteem. People sometimes do that, I know. And it can be extremely satisfying to achieve what people said we could not, but with my Therapist, I just feel like he doesn't accept me and my trust gets a little shaken up.

In the past he's wanted me to hospitalize myself when I was able to process given adequate time and move along in my daily life. He's assumed I couldn't do things like parent or deal with my ex or any other number of things. This latest he speaks about my significant other consistently in the past tense, talks about what we'll do after my partner and I break up and has told me during one session that he would hurt me. I am sitting here confused because I trust my therapist, his judgement is spot on, but my common sense says I haven't told my therapist a thing about my partner let alone anything negative. I hadn't felt a need. I save my therapy time for issues, I don't usually sit and talk about the good things. So I see him in a couple of hours and after sending him an email expressing my concern and upset over this issue, I'm expecting a conversation like ones we've had in the past where he apologizes for the way I interpreted it but takes no ownership over the words he spoke and I back down because I can't stand up for myself safely in that setting because I'm still desperate for his(my therapist) acceptance and approval.

Any helpful advice would be appreciated. I'm feeling very uncomfortable and unprepared for the discussion we'll likely need to have.

 

[Rumors]

I would just ask him what exactly he does mean then. All of the rhetoric of not taking ownership of how you translated his words is minutiae and not very productive. Ask him to clearly define what he means then decide if how you took it was what he meant. Only then can you truly know if he is being helpful or hurtful. If you think that is hurtful then speak up. If he twists your words then just let him know that he may not take ownership but you stand behind your feelings.... Good luck!

 

[greenleaf]

I haven't told my therapist a thing about my partner let alone anything negative.

It is definitely strange that the T is saying your partner will hurt you, that he's using the past tense about your partner... This would be strange and not competent for a T, but is it possible the T is confusing parts of your situation and history with another patient's...? Does he mix things up sometimes? Just a thought, sorry if this is off base.

 

[Loveneverfails]

Since this site posts all new posts to facebook, someone who I can't see is sharing my content. I feel like this site isn't secure or safe in any way whatsoever when our posts are blasted on Twitter and Facebook. Our issues can be used against us by anyone who knows what they're looking for. Won't be posting again

 

[Suzetig]

I can hear how anxious you are about Facebook however the nature of forums like this is that content can be viewed by people who aren't registered here and can be found in a google search. Some members only areas don't appear in searches but most content can.

The internet isn't a safe or secure place, neither is this site - each member has responsibility to only share material that they are comfortable with in a way that they are comfortable. My experience is that for the most part none of our stories are so individual that they could be identified from the bits folk post here. Care around identifying details, user names and avatars helps keep thing relatively anonymous unless you choose to identify yourself.

I'm not saying you're wrong to be concerned, but it's not uncommon for someone to post here, think they've said too much and feel over exposed. I hope you stay around.