General Having Friends Has Been Hard For Me

[Mrs. T]

Kinda wish I had friends like that. My closest friends were the ones that drew their own conclusions and dont listen so well...maybe they assume I am just making excuses. because of the past, I have a hard time feeling good about entrusting the details of his diagnoses with them...time for new close friends? My parents know...that's it, and they are great and have been putting effort into learning more about it :)

 

[Abrasky]

I lost a few friends to my PTSD. Even some familiy members who thought told me at 19 was I "going into retirement"?. Some other friends don't understand it is the PTSD, not me that makes all my memories of my trauma flood my short term memory when I am tired of frustrated. Frustration is a common feeling when I am working.
It is sad, but I have just moved on.
The worst thing is my trauma was about isolating me from my friends, so I find it hard to keep them with my PTSD now.

 

[Mrs. T]

That's sad. I wish everyone had some education about ptsd...but from my experience, it doesn't always mean they will understand.

 

[Serasen]

I know exactly what you mean IvyMillie.

I've always had a hard time making new friends and keeping in touch with them. I suppose mostly due to the Bipolar and inability to trust others.

Since H and I got married, it has been impossible to have friends. Just like in your case, he gets jealous of my affections for others. He gets angry if I go out of my way for someone other than him. I assure him I am not neglecting us but that doesn't seem to make a difference.

He will zone in on any new contact and almost immediately start coming up with reasons why I should not be friends with them. I end up defending them to him and defending him to them! lol I just don't have the energy after a while and we lose touch.

It's sad because I wouldn't feel the need to vent to him if I had friends. He is always telling me I need to make some friends. It's ironically tragic. So I feel for you. ((hug))