Relationship Having The Best Day!!

[hopelives]

Well we are actually having the best day. Last night we had a big talk. I asked him to help me last night and he didn't come when he said he would actually he was 2 hours late. He was so appologetic and totally explained to me that he had a moment and stressed out. But he wanted to make it up to me. I explained I was hurt but I understood. It created an easy for the situation that has not been there for ages.

We laughed talked spent time together. He went to bed at midnight and got up at 10am really refreshed and has been happy all day. Still not spending heaps of time but everytime he has been here he is laughing and joking. It has been really nice

Hope this is a sign that his therapy is working.
Anyway I feel happy. Hope everyone else is having a good day.

 

[Tinyflame]

That's great, sickofit!

Forgiveness and understanding and 'trying' (from both parties) goes a long way.
Hope you have many more good days to come :)

 

[hopelives]

I think in a way it was one of the first times that although I was hurt I didn't get angry I was like resolved. Like I realised my request was a want not a need on my part and that I had be realistic.
It is like a weight has come off his shoulders.

 

[Tinyflame]

That's a real nice gift from you to him.
Good for you! :)

 

[amethist]

Great job sickofit.

It is amazing when we react differently how they follow the same way, it takes time and practise, but it is possible. Don't worry if it does not always work like this, we are not perfect, and will always make mistakes. But you now know the changes you are both making work.

keep going with this sickofit, you will both find the right way back in time.

Amethist

 

[anni]

I shouldn't attempt too much by way of clear speech at the moment or will just sound silly and must go prop things up again soon but wished to say gosh, this was nice to read. :)

 

[Jawn]

I'm happy for you sickofit.

Jawn

 

[KP the nut]

That's great. Long may it continue, small steps
Take care
KP

 

[lovinbiker]

Great to read this thread as it was for you to write im sure Sickofit
Im sure more and more time like this will come along the ever up and down rollercoaster of ptsd.
Take care
LB

 

[hopelives]

It is interesting because last night he started to become distant. But this is a pretty normal trend for him. So instead of setting the next day up for bad. I have just decided that today may not be the best day . BUT I can make it a good day if I choose.

I may melt it is so hot here. but I shall melt with a smile. lol :)

 

[Nicolette]

IMHO Sickofit, which you are demonstrating, is that sometimes a lot of how you respond to a Sufferer can determine how they will be. In short, sometimes you have to decide whether it's worth a battle or letting it go, as in the whole scheme of things, the consequence is not worth potentially over stressing your partner making for a harder time for you.

 

[hopelives]

In a way I feel that although it has been 8 years we have been dealing with this. It is only really 2 months that we have had the CPTSD label and information that is finally helping. I think when we got the CPTSD label and I realised that all we had been doing was useless as PTSD is different from depression. It made me feel frustrated and powerless. But I feel in the last few days due to the other thread. I started to see things a bit more clearly. I see that things are improving in small ways and that is helpful

We had a conversation about finances this afternoon. Things are tight here for the next week. He was caring and I tried to be more positive and we both said in the next 24 months he will definitely have a job all things going well.

But I am also now taking steps to get an income comming in. I am pretty cluey so I need to stop waiting and kick my butt into gear.

Anyway thanks for listening to me. :)