He Has Appeared!!

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Its a little selfish maybe? He might have changed? Am I overreacting?

I don't think it's selfish even if he did change. It doesn't change what he did to you and you deserve a safe place. He already stole a lot from you, it's not fair that he can steal this away, too. It breaks my heart and makes me furious at the situation.

 

[Jane.l]

You are not over reacting in any way of course you cannot be expected to be in the same room with him it's so wrong. Is there really nothing the people that run this group can do? It's cruel and damaging to you that he should be able to effect your 'safe' place. It's just so wrong !

 

[Tiger]

The staff have tried to reassure me that they will keep a watchful eye on him, which is all I can ask, I suppose? I have just got to stop freaking out every time I see him there!! I am not entirely sure how!! I wish I didn't rely on that group so much, but this is the story of my life!! I learn to rely on and trust groups/people and then something happens and it is swept from under my feet!! Bringing me back to where I started!! I feel utterly powerless right now, I guess i'll have to try to get my head around this!! Its keeping me awake at night worrying about it at the moment!! I am so tearful!! I am annoying myself!!

 

[Jane.l]

You should not be in this position ! Please go back to the to whoever runs this group and tell them how totally unacceptable this is . Don't try and be in the same room as this vile person it will mess you up.

 

[Tiger]

OMG!!! OMG!!! OMG!!!! OMG!!! I am soooo paranoid about this now, I am too scared to move at the group just in case he is there somewhere!! Its worrying me so much that I am frightened that I'm not even safe at home now!! Maybe over reacting, but none the less I am scared stiff!! Help me, please? Anyone?

 

[Tiger]

No one there!!!

 

[scout86]

How can we help? Because I'm sure everyone here would like to.

Have you spoken any more with the staff at the group? Do they know how afraid you really are?

What kind of group is it? Are there criteria for attending, or can anyone who wants to show up? Someone asked about this earlier. I'm wondering if he's officially met the criteria.

Do you both live in the same town as 5 years ago? You might want to go speak with the police. If he has suddenly just shown up, for no apparent reason, that would seem odd. The police would have information on whether or not he's committed other offenses and at least he'd be on their radar screen, if you talked to them.

What do you know about what he's been doing for the past 5 years? Anything? Are there any victim's advocacy groups in your area that might be able to advise you?

 

[Tiger]

I am so sorry for bugging you with this!! I am not going tell anyone how I really feel because this seems to be MY problem!!! Talking about it doesn't improve anything!! I don't mean to sound 'off'!!

 

[Jane.l]

You are not 'bugging' anyone. I think scouts idea of speaking to a victim support helpline is a good idea but really I think that the people who run the group should have some responsibility of care towards you, seems even more ridiculous if it's a mental health group and this understandably totally messing with your head .

Maybe it's better not to go until a solution can be found - I know it should be him that doesn't go but it's an unbearable situation for you and perhaps you need to take yourself out of it just for now.