Hello All, New Supporter

[huntter27]

I should start in the introductions, seems like the best place to be. I have been on here a few days now and I am soaking in all the information that I can.

Very quick backround, I have been involved with a sufferer of PTDS for about 6 months now and everything I have read fits her to a "T". I am only glad that I have made it through the first couple of times of isolaion without knowing about this. I had known a lot of her past and gave her the benefit of the doubt. But to know know that there is a real reason that this happens and she returns to me shows that there is something very special there. I know without a doubt I love her and I will support her in any way that I need to. The isolation is the hardest thing to go through but reading all of the stories from other members and knowing there can and is a light at the end of the tunnel is a great relief.

I would like to thank all of the honest and in depth posts that i have read so far and I will continue to read as much as I can to attemt to understand to the best of my ability the effect of this.

 

[Sandra]

Welcome to the forum Huntter27. I hope the info on here will help you.

 

[goingonhope]

Support her many efforts and accomplishments, even if it's with a simple kiss. She's worth it, you're worth it and Welcome to the Forum, Hunter.

Lots here to learn, but the real learning will come from trial and error and your personal experience showing her you love her.

She'll either like this or she'll hate it and either way I'm not speaking regarding any reflection of you, rather I'm sharing that her degree of self-esteem determines whether or not she'll be able to continue to receive your love.

Welcome here, Hunter.

 

[PhilipH]

Welcome and I hope this forum will help you.

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi Huntter27,

One nice thing about something 'fitting' (even if it is ptsd), is that it not only explains a lot (to a sufferer) or helps one to identify, but more importantly it provides practical and effective explanations and means to deal with symptoms that are experienced.

Maybe one day she can tap into this forum (or other resources), hopefully she is already.
You having a greater understanding will help her and your relationship immensily, for obvious reasons.
And it's tranferable knowledge, because it seems more people are affected by it (as sufferers or carers) than people realize- it's kind of a silent, 'hidden' condition.

Best wishes and welcome :) , I hope you will find the info useful and the people here very supportive.

 

[TigerPride]

Hunter,
Being there for her is the best thing you can do, to help both her and you...hope the info you find here helps you both,

 

[huntter27]

Thank you all for the replies, I have shared with her some of the information I have learned here but doing do without pushing it all on her. If she asks I will share, however she has said that it means so much to her that I am trying to understand and help her in this aspect of her life. So I will continue in this path, read and learn everything I can. Thank you again

 

[huntter27]

Ok I am back and I had to vent somewhat, I have spent hours upon hours searching these forums for some sort of deff. thing I should do or some certain way I should aproach this with her. I have not found anything that can give an answer for sure. I already know the answer to that, there is no answer. Everyone is different and everyone reponds different.

So I thought I would try to explain the situation a little and maybe I can get some insight on how to approach everything. For starters I love her with all of my heart and everything that I know how. She has told me after the last isolation that she does love me also. I dont push to say it or to have her say I know when she does say it, it means way more. Only because it is hard for her. I know that her ex husband has caused most of the issues but there are also issues from her child hood. The main issues in a relationship is with her ex though. She has shared with me a lot of the stuff that has happened between them and I can totally understand why she would have issues with certain things. (Anyone would).

I guess the hardest thing for me and the question I have now is, what is the best way to approach
1. sharing the information I have found (she said she doesnt know the best way no one has ever tried to help before)
2. What to watch out for so I dont cross the line and trigger her into isolation
3. Is it really possible for someone to truly know love with PTSD and abuse ( I know its possible, but how do the walls come down)
4. Is there a specific forum that deals with any of these questions?

I really have read for days and days I have found so much good information but as I said in sharing this information I dont want trigger anything or shut her down. I wish that there was just a simple answer that someone had and you could just say this one thing and poof all better but evryone knows that doesnt happen.

I should also add that she has gone to a T a few times but is not actively going, I know she is on medication but just said last night when we were talking that she wants to see about changing it, I told her she should call but said she hates her doctor. Again its back to not wanting to push for anything. So without walking on egg shells or pushing or not wanting to be the one to tell her you need to do this. UGH!! its hard to know. So any advise on this jumble of a mess I have typed up?

Thanks

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't have an answer that will help you- I think others will- but the fact that you respect her that much and care as much as you sound you do (and think of her as more than the sum total parts of ptsd) will help you to find the right answers.