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[perfecttopink]

Hello, I want to introduce myself. I am Perfect to Pink! I am glad I found this form. I am a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I was sexually abused from the age of 5 till about the age of 13 by my step-brother. My family was and is still very dysfunctional. I am the only one that has chosen to end the cycle of not only sexual abuse but all forms of abuse. I hope that together we can heal.

 

[Nyx]

Hello, perfecttopink, welcome to the forum.

It's wonderful to hear you have chosen to break and change the chain of abuse. Take it as slow as you need to and share as much as you feel you can. I too hope we can heal together :hug:

 

[Lucycat]

Hi Perfecttopink
Welcome to the forum.:peekaboo:

 

[perfecttopink]

Thank you Nyx and Brucie, It is nice to meet you.

 

[cherryblossom]

Hello perfecttopink, and welcome to the forum :wave:

 

[perfecttopink]

Hello Cherryblossom, I am glad to be here. thank you for the warm welcome!:dance:

 

[savvybeachbum]

Hi there PerfectToPink!! It's nice to meet you, I'm Savvy, I'm all about breaking certain "family traditions" and healing as well. I'm glad you made it here ~Blessings~

 

[CarrotHead]

You are brave to break the cycle. For some reason, many just don't. I find it a completely different mentality from my own... I also get aggravated at my family for their continuing denial... although with time, I have found forgiveness and pity for them.
That does not mean that I allow them to spout falsehoods at me. I do not tollerate garbage being spout into my ears.
It's a harder road I guess, but at least it is better than living in that mess.

 

[perfecttopink]

Hello all if I did not already say hello.

Thank you Web. I do not understand why many people repeat the cycle because I did not like what happened to me. I am terrified. I get nightmares, flashbacks, and I even dissociate. My life is messed up why would I want to do that to someone else. But my T says that some people continue the cycle because it is all they know. Some think it is a normal part of life. Others seen how their abusers got what they wanted so they then do it. NO EXCUSE in my book. I know what you mean about denial. My father called me trouble maker when I told. He does not believe me and has not talked to me for 7 years. After the truth came out my whole family disowned me. Now they do not want anything to do with me because I am bettering my life. I am in college and have two A.A.S degrees and am currently working toward a BA degree. I deal with my issues they do not. They stay stuck. I piety them and forgive them but do not understand how they can stay stuck! It drives me nuts to think that I could stay stuck.
You have a point it is harder to beat the cycle than to live in the cycle. But if you continue the cycle you are worse off.

 

[WonderingWhy]

Hello there Perfecttopink!:wave:

:applause: Hurray for breaking that cycle!!!!:thumbsup:

It is hard. I do believe that many continue versus learning a new way, once they understand the way the learned was dysfunctional. Change is difficult and scary, even when you are changing for the best.

You should be proud of your decision and commitment for change. It is difficult to stand up for what's right, especially when the rest of your family leaves you to stand alone!

 

[Mercy]

I piety them and forgive them but do not understand how they can stay stuck! It drives me nuts to think that I could stay stuck.
You have a point it is harder to beat the cycle than to live in the cycle. But if you continue the cycle you are worse off.

I absolutely agree with you. It really is possible to break the cycle. It is hard at times but even little bits of freedom to choose how you will act is healing.

 

[cherryblossom]

Also remember to congratulate yourself on every thing you manage to change - no matter how small the change. If it's positive, give yourself a pat on the back. We can't change everything overnight, so every little bit helps.:D