Dom Violence Help!

[Myah]

I have been in a relationship with my partner since I just turned 18. I am now 38, I have been married 10 years and have 2 beautiful children. My partner is a controling bully who has crushed my soul with his constant verbal and physical abuse for years. I am now at the stage where I want him to leave but he threatens to kill me if I ever attempt to leave him.

He stays out 4 to 5 days in a row, he has that much control over me even while he is not here I am unable to leave the house without checkin in to tell him my every move. I am not allowed any social life.

He has other women that he has realationships with and tells them he is no longer with me and that I am obsessed with him.

I feel suffocated by the constant threats and lies.

I have been contemplating suicide lately thinking this is the only way I can escape him. The only reason I am still breathing is for my kids but mentaly I am breaking down and sometimes think my kids are better off without me.

Before they were born I have attempted suicide twice.

 

[Enaila]

Contact a safe house or women's coalition in your area and get out of there as soon as you can. They will help keep you hidden and assist with your next steps. Do this for your kids and yourself! I've been there and while it is hard, it is worth it!

 

[Justmehere]

Women's shelter or safehouse is a great step. You can meet with them and they can help explore a wide variety of options for you and the kids and help you find a path through this that keeps you all safe. They can also help find resources for counseling for you and the kids too. I'm so sorry you are doing this. It is horrible he would do this and in most states, his threats and behavior is a very serious felony. If you don't feel safe enough to travel to a shelter or domestic violence agency in person because of how he checks up on you, please call them and ask them how to handle that. They have ways to deal with it because it's sadly something they usually have dealt with many times and they know how to connect to people who need help without stalking partners finding out.

 

[EveHarrington]

Yes, please contact a local women's shelter and tell them what you've told us. :hug:

 

[Freedomfighter]

I agree, you have to get out. There is nothing better than gaining the freedom you deserve, but it is a lot of hard work too. Someone that does not allow you freedom should never be in your life, I know that is my philosophy.