Helpful tips from t’s

[Deleted member 37474]

Helpful tips from my T, how about yours?

1. Recently my T told me that wounded parts shouldn’t be expected to trust. This eliminated a lot of pressure and guilt and helped me not feel so bad for emailing T to please not fire me.

2. When you are worried about abandonment, try changing the hypothesis.

3. Do not watch shows that trigger you. This was followed with some safe show recommendations.

4. When you are friends with people that have similar traumas they can be some of your biggest supporters, but you will also be at your greatest risk for trigger related conflicts.

5. Tell me where your abuser is now? “He’s dead.” Think about that in the next set and maybe kick him in the head a few times.

6. Also, she recommended a beach park near my work and reminds me to go outside, exercise and speak nicely to myself.

 

[MrMoonlight]

Right now we are working on some simple stuff.

- try to connect with nature
- meditate or visualize my safe place 3x a day
- be mindful of the breath
- work on smiling a little (I have an angry resting face)
- Introduce more levity into my life

 

[BigBirdsSister]

My T gives her tips in things she tells me rather than tasks to do:

-You are a person
- Your feelings are valid
- She taught me this trick to ease anxiety where she has me tap pressure points under my eyes. It actually works.
- To be patient because it might take up to a year before I learn to be kind to myself
-I am not responsible for how everyone else feels (like taking extreme responsibilty
-Don't allow people to give me things to excuse treating me badly