General He's Coming To Town And Now I'm Stressed

[technigirl]

Ok so this is really more of a stress rant than anything else, but I just need to vent a bit. My estranged friend with ptsd, who I haven't spoken to in about 6 weeks and who lives halfway across the country, is coming to town. We work for the same company so he will be coming to the office. Our mutual friend M gave me this heads up today. And let's be clear, he is coming of his own accord, it's not for work, no one at work asked him to come, and he paid for the ticket himself. He has no reason to come here. He will stay at M's house August 1-8 and will come to the office the whole f'ing week. Ugh. According to M he is "bored" and that's why he is coming. We don't have many desks and I'm afraid he will end up sharing with M who sits about 15 feet from me.

This is horrible timing as I will most likely be doing an internal job interview that week, so I will be stressed about that. Not to mention, I have finally started to come to terms with the fact that he shut me out,and I've made good progress in moving on. And now, he is going to show up for no reason at all and hang out at work? Wtf, seriously? My plan is currently to just ignore him as best I can, as I am certain to run into him some of the time. But ignoring people is stressful for me, I hate doing it. That week is going to really suck. It's going to be awkward as hell.

Thanks for listening to my rant. Thoughts and comments are welcomed (even if it's just to tell me to calm the f down lol).

 

[Peach]

Calm the f down! :D

Seriously, that is a toughie and so odd that he'd buy his own ticket and then hang out at work...will he actually be paid for being there?

Sorry it's stressing you out already. Not sure there is really anything anyone can say that you don't already know...don't worry about it now, wait to see what happens, hopefully it will be a good thing. If you decide not to rekindle the friendship, maybe he'll volunteer the information about why this happened that you had been searching for. Or maybe he'll be an ass the whole time and you'll thank your lucky stars you got out (or pushed out) when you did.

Don't borrow trouble right now, just see how it plays out.:shifty:

 

[Sweetpea76]

I know it isn't funny... but I just had an image flash into my mind of when we were little in school, and we didn't want anybody to copy us, we'd pull the folders out of our Trapper-Keepers and prop them open on our desk around us like a little fort. Maybe we can get you some unicorn Lisa Frank folders and you can hunker down at your desk behind them all week until he gets a clue :O_o:.

 

[technigirl]

@Peach, Yes he will get paid, he will basically working remotely, since he is based out of CA. He can just come into the office with his laptop and do his work here I guess. But yeah...it's weird. I'm not that surprised though as he is known to do weird stuff like that. When I visited him in June, he had mentioned possibly coming here for a weekend this summer. Of course after what happened I had hoped that was all talk, and he never mentioned coming for a whole week! I'm not sure why he doesn't see the awkwardness of the situation, or if he does and just doesn't care. I will try not to worry too much about it now, but I know I'll be stressed when it gets here. Guess I'll just put my headphones on, nose to the grindstone, and try to ignore.

@Sweetpea76, actually, that is pretty funny. :)

 

[Peach]

I LOVED Lisa Frank! LOL!

Sounds like a dream job for him. Yeah, that's gonna be an awkward week. :confused:

 

[technigirl]

I just had to update this as I got more news today and now I'm even more angry. That internal job I was applying for? I just found out he told someone we both know that he might apply for it too. The job is here in my city, NOT his, so if he got it he'd be moving here. Not to mention, if he got it, I wouldn't be getting it. I'm pretty sure he's not eligible as he just moved jobs internally about 7 months ago, and you are supposed to be in your job for a year before you can change again, but they do make exceptions. He may or may not know that I've already applied. There are a few mutual friends/acquaintances who do know, maybe someone told him, but I have no way of knowing.

I just feel like, this is never going to end. At this point I just want him to stay away and out of my life, but how can I get over this if he won't stay away from my office, my (hopefully) job-to-be...

This just really sucks.

 

[Peach]

Whoa...:poop: Hopefully it's just the rumor mill churning out some crap.

 

[technigirl]

I would have thought that, but it was from a friend of mine whom I trust. He told her directly. They aren't really friends, but he used to have a crush on her, she mostly avoids talking to him but she said she questioned him since he mentioned applying for the job she knows I want. Idk why he told her this. Bleh.

 

[technigirl]

It's almost here...he'll be in the office Monday. I'm getting more and more stressed. Probably no one is watching this thread anymore, but I had to get this out.

M told me today that he will be sitting about 4 rows down from me, I'll be between him and M, and I'm right on the aisle, meaning he'll be walking right by me a lot. Shit. M told me that he's going to tell him not to try and talk to me. I told M he doesn't have to, that I can handle myself. But I think M is trying to help me, he knows I'm stressed over it and that I wish ex-friend would stay away from me and my office. It might make ex-friend angry, because he hates being told he can't do something, but actually, that's fine with me. M says I'm better off without him, and I believe that as well. The "friendship", as it were, is over as far as I'm concerned. Now I just want him to stay the hell out of my town, my office, and my life.

 

[Peach]

I've been anxiously awaiting the deets! LOL Hope there isn't much to tell...

 

[Sweetpea76]

You know... you would think this would be stressing the daylights out of him. What purpose is he serving?

 

[technigirl]

@Peach - I will be sure to update next week! I, too, hope there won't be a lot to say.

@Sweetpea76 - I know, right?! You'd think it would stress him out. There doesn't seem to be a purpose, or if there is he hasn't told anyone. No one invited him here and he isn't needed for work, he just decided to come on his own. He paid for his own ticket. And this is Austin, August isn't exactly the best time to come here (it's hot as hell lol). My suspicion is that he's feeling unsettled, bored, lonely, and thinks it will help to come here. I suppose he has at least one friend here, M, which is more perhaps than he has at home. But this is just a guess, as he hasn't even told M why he is coming.