I recently left my partner due to his verbally abusive tendency's when he was down and the fact that I'm now three months pregnant. He is in weekly group therapy, has a psychiatrist and a nurse he sees ever so often (god bless the VA). He is on medication for depression and also takes Valium for anxiety as needed.
After about a week from the time I left, the only contact from him had been a picture of the bill where his mom shipped me my things. I know he was trying to take a jab at me, but instead of responding I simply thanked his mother and promised to repay her as soon as I could.
I dont know if it's hormones or the fear of facing this alone, but I started to panic. I also felt like I had abandoned him to battle his demons alone. I contacted him via text and now two weeks into our seperation it's like he has a completely different view of how we ended. I tried to tell him how he made me feel, that while I know I hurt him by leaving he also hurt me when he told other girls he wished they were the mother of his child instead of me. When I say anything that doesnt agree with his version of events he gets so angry. Is this denial a symptom of his ptsd? He is beyond depressed but doesn't seem to want to make the changes needed for him to get back on track.
He says that I should have stayed, tried counseling with him. I wish we had done couples counseling but we were at that point where things were so bad i had to leave then. He thinks that I stripped him of the chance to be a father. Will this ever change? Am I doomed to be the villain in this forever, when all I was trying to do was protect the health and happiness of myself and the baby?
I told him I wanted him to get better for himself and our child. His mother told me he had another run in with the police and got released into her custody. She has dealt with his ptsd for eight years since he returned from Iraq and she is at a loss for what to do.
Also are there any books out there that might help me better understand what hes going through? I'm going to be tied to this man for life and I'd like to be able to understand myself and later explain things to our child. thanks.
After about a week from the time I left, the only contact from him had been a picture of the bill where his mom shipped me my things. I know he was trying to take a jab at me, but instead of responding I simply thanked his mother and promised to repay her as soon as I could.
I dont know if it's hormones or the fear of facing this alone, but I started to panic. I also felt like I had abandoned him to battle his demons alone. I contacted him via text and now two weeks into our seperation it's like he has a completely different view of how we ended. I tried to tell him how he made me feel, that while I know I hurt him by leaving he also hurt me when he told other girls he wished they were the mother of his child instead of me. When I say anything that doesnt agree with his version of events he gets so angry. Is this denial a symptom of his ptsd? He is beyond depressed but doesn't seem to want to make the changes needed for him to get back on track.
He says that I should have stayed, tried counseling with him. I wish we had done couples counseling but we were at that point where things were so bad i had to leave then. He thinks that I stripped him of the chance to be a father. Will this ever change? Am I doomed to be the villain in this forever, when all I was trying to do was protect the health and happiness of myself and the baby?
I told him I wanted him to get better for himself and our child. His mother told me he had another run in with the police and got released into her custody. She has dealt with his ptsd for eight years since he returned from Iraq and she is at a loss for what to do.
Also are there any books out there that might help me better understand what hes going through? I'm going to be tied to this man for life and I'd like to be able to understand myself and later explain things to our child. thanks.
